If you get a girlfriend in your 20s, you are setting yourself up for disaster. The best-case scenario is that you are 29 years old, and you find yourself an 18-year-old girlfriend.

In this case, she’s 11 years younger than you, so you’ve got a decade until you’re 40 and until she hits 30 when you can have kids right away.

Unmarried men are the happiest

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Young Men Who Are Not Married Are Happy

If every man in society played this game, it would effectively destroy society, so what we do need is to 90-95% of men to get a girlfriend early.

We need them to get married before they turn 30 and marry a girl that is maybe five years younger, so when they turn 30, they start having children when the guy reaches about 35 and his wife is about 30.

This advice is for the guys that I coach, the guys that are outside the norm, the guys that want something better for their own lives and are willing to take advantage of the fact that 95% of men are going to play that game.
I had a look at the first “Top Gun” movie with Tom Cruise, back in the 80s, with the girl that was his romantic interest in the movie.

We have photos of them in the 80s and they looked hot. Comparing photos of them today, Tom Cruise just looks a little bit older, and the woman looks like she could be his mom. So, as men, our mate value increases until we’re about 40 and then it goes on until we are about 55-60.

Unmarried men have more options

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Young Married Men Are Trapped

Depending on how well you look after yourself, obviously. If you’re drinking and partying, you’re going to look terrible by the time you’re 50.

But we’re still rising in value until we’re about 40. Then, we hit a plateau. However, women rise as soon as they turn 18, and then, at 21, it just goes directly down by the time they’re 25-30.

Men are judged based on their charisma, what they provide to the world what type of value they add to the world, how intelligent and ambitious they are.

Do you have wealth, can you be a provider for children?

These are all things that women admire in a man. If you are overweight and you are ugly and deliberately destroying your body with bad food, not working out and doing things to at least keep yourself on that level, you’re hurting your own mate value.

Why Men Should Stay Single Under 40 Years Old

Women, on the other hand, peak when they’re about 18. By 25, it just goes down, their value being based on their looks. That’s why you will see an 18-year-old guy being treated like he’s a nobody, or a 21-year-old guy being discarded by society.

However, a 21-year-old girl, who’s cute and pretty, hasn’t done anything for society, is put on a pedestal, gets a job and a promotion easily and everyone you know is attracted to her.
Let’s say you find yourself a girlfriend who’s 21 as well as you. You finish your university degree, you’re in love and then you move in together and get married by 25.

You might start hitting the gym a little bit more, you’re a bit more educated, making money, your looks start to increase by 25. Your girlfriend of 25 is starting to decrease. In fact, you will be better looking than your girlfriend at 25.

By the time you’re 30, she’s going to be “Okay I’m finished with my career, I want to have children” and you’re going to be 30 thinking “Wow my career is just taking off, I’ve got another decade of awesomeness ahead of me and she’s already run her race”.

Men Who Get Married at a Young Age Ruin Their Lives

The issue is, when you’re 40, we have a huge divorce rate like 55% or more.

So, if I was to tell you that you’re going to catch a flight to Hawaii this year for the holidays and there’s a 55% chance that the plane is going to crash and you’re going to lose half your money and be paying alimony or child support for the next 15 years would you catch that flight?

No, you wouldn’t.

It’s not just the factor of getting married, but during your twenties, you will be able to get better looking girls when you learn game.
Joseph Stiglitz, who’s a great American economist, wrote a book recently where he says that the main thing that you can do to ensure that you will be a success in life is to have the right parents, but then he says “That’s not something you choose is it?”. So, let’s just say that you have had good parents.

They’re together, they didn’t get divorced. If there’s a few people brought up by divorced parents, that destroys your probability of being successful later in life.

You would have been brought up by a single parent, therefore, that platform is not there for 55% of you, statistically.

If you’re not starting with a good platform, you have a broken home, you’re brought up by a single mother, you’re starting the race at a lower level.
You’re trying to race as you get older, and you start to decline in age. You’re behind the others if you come from a single parent, and you get into a relationship because you need some sort of love and you think “I’m going to fall in love”.

You’re more likely to have emotional problems from breaking up with girlfriends or to accidentally cause a pregnancy which is going to negatively affect your financial freedom later in life.

In your 20s, you’re setting a platform that can skyrocket the rest of your life and put you in a situation that guarantees you’ll be able to afford kids, to travel the world, start buying a property so that you can have a good retirement.

Marriage is Just a Financial Contract That Traps Men

So, you’re in your 20s and you’re getting into a relationship and you’re spending your time with this one girl.

Firstly, her mate value is going to decline, and you’re going to be in your 30s and lost money that you should have been spending on yourself, in your own education and in your future. Instead, that money and that status that you have is going to guarantee that you could get hot girls in your 20s.
That’s one negative aspect of getting into serious relationships in your 20s. You’re disrupting your education, your financial and emotional stability and you’re not building a solid platform for the rest of your life.

Most guys should meet their girlfriend for society. The more of these guys that we have out there that leave university, get their degree find a girlfriend in university and pay taxes, join the race trying to climb the corporate ladder do all the good things that keep society stable.
Because of all their hard work, this gives you an opportunity to have a better life which is to avoid relationships. Just have short-term relationships.

You can have many women in your life, you can call them girlfriends, but they’re not really your girlfriend. They’re just girls that are borrowing you until you get into your 40s.

You can lend yourself out to all these girls but when you get to your 40s you know you can lend yourself up to higher quality girls.
In your 20s, it is the easiest time to meet a girl because there’s a lot of girls around and they’re all available to get laid, and if you’re of their age range they’re more likely to go with you.

Focus on yourself, build a business, get educated get some skills, save money, make a plan. Make sure that, in your 30s, you are building this foundation and you’re ready to skyrocket into life.

The 20s are when you build your life and build your platform to make sure that your 60s are good and also to make sure that you are in your 30s with an awesome 18-year-old girlfriend.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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