Men will always be at a huge disadvantage when it comes to open relationships. Simply because it’s far easier for a woman to get fast sex from random men. Hell, an average woman can go for her morning walk to buy some milk from the shops, have sex with a man she met on the way there and return in time for breakfast.
If she chooses to.
The only exception to this irrefutable rule is:
- When the man is not in love with her. This means he’s just keeping her as one of many other girls he’s sleeping with. (rotation, spinning plates etc)
- The man is such a high-value man that he has unlimited options, which means he can leave at any moment. And of course, most importantly, she is fully bought into how high value he is.
Other than these exceptions, men will always be at a disadvantage when engaging in an open relationship with women.
Open relationships will always favor women due to the power dynamics involved. Far too often, men find themselves trapped in open relationships with women they love. These women are abusers who take full advantage of the men who love them while giving nothing in return. These unfortunate men become prisoners to these malevolent women.
The only solution for men trapped in an open relationship is to break free.
Is An Open Relationship A Healthy Relationship?
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The short answer is NO. A healthy relationship is always healthy when both partners get EVERYTHING they need from the other person. The very definition of an open relationship is evidence that one or both partners are not getting everything they need from each other.
Don’t believe what people say about their open relationships, watch what they do and figure out what is really going on that way. Most open relationships are triggered by only one partner. The other partner is not so okay with this idea, but they go along with it, because they love the other partner so deeply, that they are willing to make such a huge sacrifice to keep them.
This makes one partner the abuser and the other partner a victim of abuse.
Victims Of Open Relationships Die Early
This is a little anecdotal but bear with me for a second. From my personal experience, I’ve seen and heard of many relationships where one partner was cheating and the other partner knew about it. I honestly believe that if you find yourself in an open relationship with a girl who is sleeping with other guys, this will take a serious toll on your health.
One example was a girl I was dating briefly. She was a wealthy lawyer who flew my interstate to have a luxurious weekend away with her and her parents. Don’t worry, we only had dinner with her parents once. I had the rest of the trip to have fun in a resort.
While we were at dinner, her father was very flirty with the waitress. It was so obvious to everyone at the table, yet the mother said nothing as if this was something normal. So, after dinner, I asked the girl I was seeing about their relationship, and she told me that her father is always looking for other girls, but her mother tolerates it.
The mother looked unhappy to me. She was a little disconnected during the entire meal. I believe that was because she never received the love she needed in the relationship. I later heard that she died far too young and a long time before her father even felt like he was even starting to age.
This is the power of being in total control in a relationship.
You don’t want to suffer a long and painful death of despair, do you?
What Type Of Women Ask For Open Relationships With Their Partners?
I’d argue that in most cases one partner (the woman) struggles to get the man who truly fills all of her desires. She can only get the perfect man for her via one-night stands. However, none of these men want to commit to her. So she settles for a man who she can get.
Recently, people started calling this type of girl the ”alpha widow”. When a girl in her prime years (18yrs to 25yrs) sleeps with a guy who she thinks is perfect, unfortunately from that moment on, she will rarely find another man who will compare.
She will always miss him, she will always wish he would come back to her. Or a man similar to him. This does something to women. It makes them start a lifelong search for another man who will fill his position. For most women, he will never manifest, and she will constantly search for something that is impossible to find.
The main reason why these ”alpha widows” will never find another man who can replace him, is simply because her mate value starts to decline after 25 years old. If she cannot lock in her perfect man before the age of 25yrs, her ”purchasing power” in the sexual marketplace is lower.
These women don’t understand that their mate value has lowered, because it’s difficult to see when it’s lowering gradually. Sure women notice a few wrinkles here and a little cellulite there. But society in the west gives women so much power, that it’s ever more difficult to see how unattractive she has become.
So, while she is waiting patiently for another man to come and sweep her off her feet, she finds herself settling for whatever man comes along. Even though she’s unsatisfied in the relationship, deep down she knows she cannot do any better at this point in time. So, she (malevolently) leads this poor guy on, locking him into a loveless relationship, then convinces him that opening up the relationship is a good idea.
This is pure evil in my opinion. The unfortunate man in this situation is often a good guy, who would make the perfect husband to almost any girl. Yet, he doesn’t truly know his value. He’s now living in the opposite reality to the woman. He thinks he’s low value, while she is delusional to believe her value is still high, even though it’s almost totally collapsed.
These men are living with a scarcity mindset that is equally delusional. They don’t know what they are capable of.
I’ve met awesome guys who are seriously talented business leaders. These men are awesome in every way, yet they are trapped in an open relationship with an evil trashbag (alpha widow) woman.
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