Get my free video series and sign up for my email newsletter.

If your girlfriend says she needs space, something major happened to cause such a reaction. An argument/fight is usually the catalyst, but not always.

She feels unheard and somewhat helpless, there’s a good chance that you are far too domineering or inflexible. She needs space because of frustration with her inability to get through to you or change you.

Being a strong man has it’s positives, but also it’s negatives, you need to be flexible, perhaps you were not listening to her and she felt unheard and therefore helpless. When a person or situation is impossible to deal with, the best solution is to walk away, you have become that impossible situation.

I’d put money on it, that she has told you exactly what her problem was, but you didn’t listen, she may have come to the conclusion that you will never listen.

This is bad news for your relationship with her and if you lose her and don’t change your ways, you’ll repeat the same mistake in the future.

Looking For Signs She Misses You During a Break

This isn’t the last 15 seconds of the game, you’ve got the ball, the crowd is screaming and you turn to your coach for the perfect play for your team to win the game.

The time for that has long gone at this point, you unfortunately missed the signs and now it’s simply a waiting game, the ball is entirely in her court, it’s her play, your turn to wait.

She says that she needs space in order to see if her feelings override her rational mind. This may be hard to read, but your girlfriend wants a break because she is seriously considering leaving you.

Furthermore, she wants time off from your relationship as a test to see if she misses having you around. Luckily for you, women are emotional creatures, not rational like us men. If this was a man, he’d be long gone at this point, so you can at least count yourself lucky in this aspect.

Remember, the balls in her court now. We're playing the waiting game from now on. 

Don’t Contact Your Girlfriend While on a Break

If your girlfriend enjoys her time away from you, if she loves the fact that she has more free time to do whatever she wants, then she may not come back to you.

Although she may be having a great time without you, she may love having all this extra free time too, catching up with friends and family, doing fun things that she couldn’t do while spending all her time with you.

This doesn’t mean that it’s game over, mostly it’s the opposite, while she’s out having fun, her emotions will be more positive, then she might start to remember all the fun she used to have with you, perhaps she’ll only remember the good times, this may make her feel a little bad and miss you.

Keep this in mind.

But Imagine this scenario, she’s enjoying her time and slightly missing you, she may even start to wonder what you are doing right now (this is a great thing to happen).

But instead of allowing her to miss you, you jump in and start texting her how sorry you are, sending her stupid messages that remind her why she needed space from you in the first place.

Just, don’t contact her, let this play out organically.

Your Life Should Never Revolve Around Your Girlfriend

Whenever a man gets into a relationship or even gets married, he should never have his girlfriend at the centre of his life, this is a disaster waiting to happen.

What I always do when I start a new relationship, is to free up slots in my weekly schedule for hobbies and to hang out with my friends.

I tell her that Friday afternoon is poker with the boys (even if I don’t have poker that night), the point is to free up your schedule for friends, regardless if anything is planned already.

You must have a life outside of your girlfriend, it’s so important that you do this, or you’ll be left with nothing if the relationship ends. I warn about the divorce rate here in ”why you should never get married”.

Have you ever had a friend who got a girlfriend or got married, then stopped hanging out with his friends? If so, did you think he was a fool? Of course you did, not to mention the fact that all the boys missed hanging out with him.

You don’t want to be that guy do you? All men should keep in contact with their friends throughout every relationship they get into, bring her into your world, don’t allow her to isolate you.

Maybe you’re too Clingy, She Might Feel Smothered

During the relationship, were you always too available to her? Were you the type of boyfriend that always texted her, replied to her calls immediately, were you always on hand to help her out with every little problem she may have had? If so, maybe you were smothering her, which makes her want to get away to breath.

Sure, you can allow a relationship to become intense over a short period of time, but over a prolonged period of time will become too much for anyone. Being a super nice guy who is caring is great in short bursts, it’s evidence you have a big heart, but maybe it was too much for her.

Never Show Weakness To Your Girlfriend

Some statistics out there say that 95% of women are attracted to a man who is more open with his emotions, some even suggest that men should cry more often etc.

This is false! I’m going to give my personal experience here, this is only going to make her disrespect you and leave you. I’ve dated hundreds of girls over the years, some I’ve dated when I was going through some difficult times.

From my experience, whenever I showed my weakness, opened up about being stressed about certain things, whenever I did this, the girl would end up breaking up with me sooner rather than later.

While your girlfriend is taking a break from your relationship, from my experience, the worst thing you could do is show any emotions or weakness to her. It will only increase the chances that she will never come back, so just simply play it cool, that’s my advice.

She Needs Space To Break Up With You

• Will she come back if I give her space?
• Do breaks lead to breakups?
• Does taking a break mean your single?

We have to deal with the reality of the situation here, there is a good chance that she is only asking for ”space to think” so that she can plan an escape from the relationship. If this is the case, you may need 20 Tips on How to Easily get a Girlfriend and Fast.

Signs Your Girlfriend Needs Space – You Ignored the Signs

Next time you should look for these signs to avoid things getting out of control in the future.

• Your girlfriend was grumpy for a prolonged period of time
• She asked to meet your family but you ignored it
• She asked if the relationship was serious and you didn’t commit, so she lost feelings for you
• She started staying at work for longer hours
• You no longer could see her on weekends
• She kept asking for something specific from you, but you kept ignoring her
• Your girlfriend stopped wanting sex
• She started going out with her girlfriends more often
• She started going to the gym and getting fit all of a sudden
• Her phone became a secret and she kept getting texts that were secret
• She stopped laughing at your silly jokes
• Your girlfriend seemed bored with the relationship

When Your Girlfriend Needs Space – Do These 5 Things

Spend Time With The Boys

This is a great opportunity to catch up with your friends, watch the football, have a BBQ etc

Hit The Gym

Just in case your girlfriend turns her need for space into a full on breakup, you may as well start preparing now. Let’s get some more gym time in and get yourself back in shape. Not to mention that the exercise will pump blood and testosterone around your body and make you feel 100% better.

More Time For Work and Career

This could be an opportunity to sink your teeth into your career. Some guys feel better when they put their focus on work and career, so if you are this type of guy, this is a great time to get back into it.

Do That Thing You Always Wanted To Do

Deep down there is always something that we all want to do, what is it? If there ever was an excuse to do it, this is that time.

Find a One Night Stand

Some people may argue that ”space” is not the same as a ”break” or a break up, I’d argue that it kinda is and that it’s perfectly acceptable to meet someone else during this time period. You never know, she may well be using this time to sleep with another guy.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

If you want to learn more about the sweet art of cold approach, Enquire here, join my group, where I’ll have a chat to you before entering. Get my free video series and finally, if you are adventurous, try my 30 day challenge.

How To Find a New Girlfriend – Get a Wingman

One service I provide is to be a wingman to men and help them to pick up girls in public, I call it the sweet art of cold approach, have a look here. Another easy way to get into meeting girls is with a 30 day challenge, which I highly recommend.