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We need to stay positive under these circumstances, men tend to become extremely pessimistic when dealing with the possibility of losing their partner.

You are probably thinking about all of the negative side effects of losing your relationship with her, you may be only focussing on the things that you have or could lose.

I bet you have so many good things in your life right now, that could be leveraged for greater things moving forward, but you just cannot see them right now.

This is a human trait across the board, we tend to focus on loss, more than the possibility of gaining something, I bet you have the possibility to gain many things due to the possibility of losing her.

Imagine if you learned game? If you are at a place where thinking about what can be gained, you should learn more about my novel theories about game, by checking out my other posts at the bottom of this page.

Having the ability to step back, and have a wider view of your life is a valuable thing to do right now. Do a quick analysis of the cost versus benefits of your relationship with her, to figure out whether it’s worth the return on your investment of time.

Is She Stressed For Other Reasons Than You?

You think she’s fallen out of love with you organically, the problem is, most of the time men have no idea what’s going on. To start solving the issue with your relationship falling apart, we need to figure out what is going on.

Check for external factors that could be negatively affecting her life, that you may not be aware of. Often other aspects of her life may be experiencing trauma, which will be having a direct consequence for your relationship with her.

Look for signs that work isn’t overloading her, which could be causing stress. If she’s studying, check to see if her assignments or exams are all under control.

It’s important to be independent and understand that you are not supposed to be her white knight that solves all her problems, for two reasons. Being her savior will only make things worse over time.

• One, she might be independent and you trying to solve her problems may just annoy her.
• Two, you definitely don’t want to be in a relationship, where your partner relies on you to solve all of her problems. In the beginning you may like the idea that you can solve her problems, as a trade for her staying with you. Gee, that’s a terrible way to live life, and eventually you’ll get tired of doing everything for her, but the implicit contract has been set. Which is that, if you don’t solve all her problems, she can leave you for another simp who will. Got it?

Relationships Evole Over Time, It’s Normal

In the early stages of every relationship, you and her go through what’s called a ”honeymoon period” where everything works outright.

During the beginning period, you and her are careful not to insult each other, almost like you are both being hyper-aware of the other’s feeling. Not to mention, constantly guarding your secrets from each other, hoping not to show a side of yourself that your partner may not appreciate.

Small things like eating dinner with your mouth closed, making sure that your hygiene is on point, even being very careful not to allow her to see you on the toilet. This is something we all go through in every relationship, we don’t want her to see anything about us, that she may disapprove of.

Eventually, all these slowly evaporate, as we become more comfortable with each other. This can take approximately two years, but who knows how long it can take.

As we slowly let our guards down over time, we allow our partners to see aspects of who we are that we might not be entirely proud of, most of the time we don’t even realize we have allowed her to see these negative aspects of us.

Now, I would like you to think about the possibility that some aspects of yourself could have leaked out without you realizing.

Think about this deeply, make sure you know for sure whether you have or have not. I’d argue that we should always be on guard in our relationships, there’s never a time to relax, and show our weaknesses.

Be honest with yourself, have you shown her something you are not proud of?

Does She Disrespect You?

If there is one way to know if your relationship is in trouble, it’s when she disrespects you. No doubt in the beginning of your relationship, she would have shown you respect, well hopefully, I hope you are not the type of guy who would tolerate your partners disrespect.

Usually, women show a large amount of respect in the beginning, then as you reveal things she may not like, gradually she will start to outwardly show disrespect for you. This contempt can become the daily spiteful showing of disrespect.

This is a serious warning sign that your relationship with her is in trouble. If you are here, it’s time to figure out why she is disrespecting you, this is going to take some honest reflection.

Think deeply about why. If you have honestly done nothing that shows weakness, or incompetence. Women have contempt for lazy man, incompetent men, this is how they are wired.

Have you shown these signs of a weak man to her? If so, you know what to do, it’s time to show more signs of ambition and competence, she’ll change her attitude quickly.

What if you are ambitious, competent and hard-working?

If you have not shown any signs of weakness, incompetence, laziness etc, that increases the probability she is cheating on you, I’m sorry to say.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle
• How to get a younger girlfriend
• What is indirect game
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)

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How do you know if she’s interested in someone else?

Try not to become paranoid, though it would be a good idea to be aware of all her movements from now on. Where does she go, who doe she go there with, is there any inconsistency.

You are looking for inconsistency more than anything else, looking for things that don’t make sense more than trying to find the ”smoking gun” and catch her red-handed, because that’s almost impossible. Inconsistency is the key.

If you realize your girlfriend does not love you anymore but is not telling you, it means she still respects and cares about your feelings and does not want to hurt you. Which I guess is some form of consolation, well, not really.

The simple thing you can do to fix this relationship, is by improving your ways. Figure out what she wants to gain from you and maximize this. Sure, this is not a clear answer, but everyone is different, all we know is that something is wrong, but she still respects you, so theres hope.

We need to identify what’s wrong and whether she is lacking something from you.

If she feels insecure in some way and feels you are being an annoying or emotionally weak person, then quite often the girl will lose her attraction for you and could want to finish the relationship.

Women can’t stand annoying behavior, in the beginning of a relationship most girls will be able to cope with bad behavior but, she will expect you to change over time.