Making the right choice on the right woman for you, is one of the most important decisions you’ll even make. Choosing the wrong girl to marry will in most cases ruin your life, so choose wisely.

Picking a girl based purely on how attractive she is, will often end in disaster, this doesn’t mean that beautiful girls cannot make good partners, it’s just one metric to take into account.

Nor are your feelings, just because you feel strong attachment to a girl, doesn’t mean she’ll make a good partner either, don’t allow emotions cloud the decision making process. We have quite a bit to cover, so lets get into it.

Signs You’re Emotionally Infatuated With Her

• You think she’s the hottest girl you’ve dated (don’t think you can do better)
• You talk on the phone for hours
• You want everyone you know to meet her (trophy girlfriend)
• You secretly plan your future together without telling her
• You would rather spend time with her then your friends (isolate yourself)

The signs above are usually called love amongst the general population, but there are many risks to this type of infatuation. If you think she’s the hottest girl you’ve ever dated and will ever date, then you put yourself in a helpless situation where she has all the leverage in the relationship.

Introducing her to all your friends in the beginning can be exciting and make you feel like you have actually achieved something by getting such a hot girlfriend, but real achievement comes from your independence.

And power in a relationship will eventually be used against you. Remember the saying ”power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely”. She may not be using this power against you today, but when she becomes self aware, she will.

A man should always have the ability to walk away, this keeps the relationship safe for everyone involved.

When planning your future with her, always remember that life is uncertain, so preparing for that uncertainty without her is what will keep you safe financially and emotionally. Remember, you are deciding to be with her because you choose to, NOT because you are trapped, most men trap themselves, don’t be one of those guys.

NEVER ISOLATE YOURSELF FROM YOUR FRIENDS. If a girl insists that you don’t hang out with your friends too much, this is a huge warning sign and I could write a whole new post on that one.

I’d say that most women would be okay with you hanging out with your friends and would not intervene. So, try not to isolate yourself and rely entirely on her, one day you will regret it.

How Do You Know If She Is The Right One To Marry?

When I was a teenager, the only thing that mattered to me was how beautiful the girl was, she could be the worst human being of all time, but as long as she was hot, I’d tolerate it.

That is the best way to go when you are young, in my opinion, get used to dating hot girls so that they don’t intimidate you later on in life.

But when it comes to finding out if she’s the one for you, that’s a different story altogether. Here’s what I suggest you look for in a girl that you want to have a serious relationship with.

More Logical & Less Emotional

I’m going to compare two of my ex-girlfriends below

Former Cat walk model : A girl who is extremely feminine can sometimes (not always) be somewhat neurotic. One of the girls I personally came close to marrying was just like this.

All of my friends and family fell in love with her immediately, she was hot etc This one loved chasing validation in the nightclubs, she called people her ”minions” and ”peasants”, I’m not joking. Maybe the fact that she was a former cat walk model played a part in her bitchiness, not sure.

But the constant rollercoaster of emotions was a little too much and not something that I wanted to deal with long term. She argued with her work colleagues and sister on a weekly basis, complained to me about friends too, life was a constant drama with her and even though I could handle it, I knew this was not sustainable.

Scientist with a PhD : On the other spectrum, my last serious girlfriend was quite logical, completed her PhD in science, she had things going in her life that was directly related to her ability to stay level headed under pressure.

She was a virgin when I met her via cold approach pick up on the street, she never hit the clubs, nor did she use online dating apps or chased validation on social media.

This girlfriend could brainstorm ways to solve problems with me as an equal, there was very little drama in our lives, life was stable and enjoyable with her. And I believe it was directly related to her being more grounded and logical.

Can She Do Traditional Things?

Former Cat walk model : She was great at ordering expensive meals and choosing expensive restaurants that her friends had told her about previously. But one day she decided to treat me like a proper boyfriend and cook for me.

She started cooking in the kitchen and discovered that she had forgotten all the ingredients. She was emotional, so something as simple as cooking a meal was a highly strung emotional roller coaster. She wanted to impress me and show that she was girlfriend material.

Mid way through cooking, she left for the shops without turning off the stove. Next thing I knew, black smoke was coming out of the kitchen as the pot was burning, the smoke alarm went off and I was left to clean it up.

While simultaneously making her feel appreciated for at least trying to cook for me. The pot was ruined and the from memory we ended up ordering take away, can’t remember.

Scientist with a PhD : She was not the best cook either, but when she did, there was no stress. Her ability to think about what I needed in the future and solve those problems made our relationship run smoothly.

Sometimes she would bring food or ingredients to my place, knowing that I needed them to cook or she would surprise me by thinking of something that I needed without myself even realising it.

Before I travelled overseas, she bought me compression socks, to avoid blood clots, this was just one example of a thought full thing she did, that made life easier. I’d categorise this as traditional in a sense that she was thinking about her boyfriend and I’d argue that this is the type of girlfriend that you should want.

Does She Spend Too Much Money?

This is a huge problem with women in western countries today, they spend too much money and often go into debt. Sure, if she is earning a good salary and spending within her means, that’s fine. But if she’s working in a cafe and spending like she’s Bill Gate’s, then it’s time to run.

Where Did You Meet Her?

Let’s start from the beginning, where did you meet her? This is very important in my opinion, let’s say for instance, you met her in a strip club, what’s the chances she’ll be a keeper… Yeah, pretty low.

This doesn’t mean that you cannot meet a girl in a bad situation and she could turn out to be perfect, it’s just less probable. Here’s how I meet women, if you are interested.

Online Dating App or Social Media

Not all women use online dating apps to meet guys, which means that you are only reaching a small portion of the girls out there. But, let’s just say that you happen to meet your current girlfriend through Tinder or Instagram.

Girls have far more options online, which means the 80/20 principle comes into play.

This does not mean that you won’t find a girl who’s awesome online, but in general, she will have all the leverage. And with this leverage, she’ll in most cases pick the hottest guy she can.

This is bad enough, also, keep in mind she’ll have an inbox full of thirsty guys and the question you need to ask yourself is ”how many of them did she sleep with?” before AND after you started dating her.

I’m not trying to scare you though, just saying.

Keep in mind, pair bonding is a serious problem these days with women, who have slept with too many guys casually.

Nightclubs or Bars

Many of my friends have met girls this way and all of them have ended in divorce… Just saying

Not all girls frequent nightclubs or bars, but the girls who hit the clubs on a regular basis should be avoided, when looking for love. Sure, you can get lucky, but on average, these girls don’t make wife material.

Drug and alcohol problems are common in girls who hit the clubs often and they also have trouble with pair bonding.

I’d look for girls who are out for a special occasion, say, out for a wedding etc. Girls who don’t go out that often, sometimes you will get lucky and find a gem.

During Your Day to Day Life (Daygame)

Cold approach pick up is by far the best method for meeting women in general, sure you will meet girls who will make bad partners, just avoid approaching them, easy. Girls who do not get wasted and sleep around in nightclubs, plus girls who aren’t chasing clout online, are still out there and there’s a huge majority of them.

Mystery Has His Heart Broken Again

This was a little surprising to me, someone with all his experience with women, to still become heart broken when it ends. I’d like to think that with experience, you’ll have the ability to overcome all these issues.

Learning that a relationship won’t last forever, is the best way to protect yourself from this type of emotional breakdown.

Exposure therapy is a great way to get loads of exposure to rejection and learn that it’s a huge part of game. This is one thing I teach, with my live coaching and I recommend you learn the sweet art of cold approach with me.

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Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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