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Let’s be real, the main reason why men want to kiss a girl is only because the next step is sex. Us men don’t go to sleep at night dreaming about kissing girls, we dream about having sex.

This is an important distinction to make before brainstorming strategies on how to kiss a girl for the first time. So, now that we’ve established this, we can start to plan out a more solid and encompassing strategy for the first kiss, so that it leads to sleeping with the girl, hopefully the same time as the first kiss.

I’m going to discuss kissing a girl for the first time so that it leads to sex, while giving a more holistic approach to solving this problem for you guys reading this.

How To Kiss A Girl

Before I get into the important things you need to know before going in for the kiss, lets cover the basics first.

Public Display of Affection

It’s best to be in an isolated location before going in for the kiss. Many girls will feel weird kissing a guy in public, with onlookers around. So, best practices, is to choose a place where you both can be alone.

Touching & Eye Contact

Before going in for the kiss, depending on whether you are standing or sitting, the way you get up close to touch her will be different. If standing, face her front on and put your hands around her waist, if sitting, get as close to her as possible and put your hand on her knee or around her back.

If she accepts you moving closer to her and everything is consensual at this stage. Then, lock onto her eyes, make sure you are locked in, hold strong eye contact before going in for the kiss. Put your hand behind her head and pull her head closer to yours.

Avoid Her Cooling Down

Avoid allowing her to cool down. Here is a real phenomenon that so many guys I’ve spoken to have experienced. She will start to cool down after warming up and once she has cooled down, it’s difficult (sometimes) to warm her back up again.

I don’t know why, all I can do is relay what many guys experience back to you, so you don’t make the same mistake.

Here’s an example, let’s imagine you hit the nightclubs and manage to meet a girl. She hangs out, has a few drinks with you etc.

Then you make a move on her and she accepts, next thing you know, you are passionately kissing this beautiful girl in the nightclub. You think in this moment, that she is definitely coming back to stay at your place.

After passionately making out with her all night, cuddling, holding hands etc you stop making out so much and just enjoy each others company.

For whatever reason, you didn’t try to take her home straight away, perhaps you were with friends that you could not leave or she was with friends and refused to leave. So, you’re just hanging with her, looking for an opportunity to take her home, but this never happens.

Then eventually, after what felt like an eternity together in the club. She decides to go home with her friends, instead of you. You are shocked, especially because of how hot and heavy the make-out session was.

It seemed like it was in the bag, which left you feeling rejected, almost empty inside, somewhat used by her too. Then the next day she ghosts you. You never hear from her again.

This means she cooled down during the long wait with you in the club.

The only solution to this situation, is to try take her home immediately, and if she cannot go, leave her, move on to the next girl in the club. Simply keep approaching girls.

Start Kissing Her At Home Strategy

This is my strategy, I avoid kissing girls outside at all, because I know that sometimes they will cool down and the whole thing will be blown. Perhaps in a taxi while travelling beck to my place, this is mostly one of the only times I’d kiss a girl outside, as we will arrive back at my place soon and she won’t have a chance to cool down.

The Traditional Girl

If you are out with a traditional girl, which means a girl who is less likely to sleep around and has a self image of a good girl, that she want to keep.

This type of girl would not (in most cases, not all) necessarily want to engage in PDA public display of affection. It’s advisable to be careful trying to kiss her outside at all, or it might blow everything.

The good news is, this type of girl should be easier to take home to kiss, as they have that good girl image to keep up with, so hiding at your place is something they’d prefer.

Last Thoughts

We’ve established that I believe that you should wait until taking a girl home before going in for the kiss. And the reason for this, is most men only want to kiss a girl because it leads to sex. While on a date with a girl, its important to build up the touching step by step.

Hold her hand, put your arm around her, touch her lower back. These are designed to test if she is compliant to your touch and even wants you to touch her at all. If she accepts the hand, try put your arm around her, if she accepts the arm, touch her lower back and so on and so on.

What I just explained to you could be called ”compliance building” which I guess makes sense. What you should be looking for is, signs she is not interested, not signs she is interested.

The sooner you discover that she doesn’t want you to touch her, you can leave her and find a girl who is interested. Your time on Earth is precious, don’t waste it.

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Thank you for reading, please keep in touch.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
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• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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