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The belief that everything will work out in the end and you will find a girl who’s attracted to you, is one of the most powerful mindsets needed to have long term success with women.

I like to tell people that you can drop me in the most difficult place on Earth to get laid and I’ll find a girl to sleep with. This is the type of positive mindset that you need to cultivate with ”getting laid”.

Overcome Your Fear Of Rejection From Women

Focus on finding a girl that is attracted to you, not the girl who’s not. I cannot count the amount of times I’ve been out gaming and been rejected all day or night. And right at the end, right when I’m about to quit, I say to myself ”one more” and that last approach is the girl who comes home with me.

Remember to always be looking forward at the next girl who could possibly become your girlfriend, not looking back at the last girl who was not interested in you.

This has happened so many times that I’ve lost count. . .

Sure, I’ve got the experience now and this helps with my self belief that everything will work out in the end. But how did I get the experience the very first time? Well, I had the determination to see it through to the bitter end, without any previous experience that it was going to work out at all.

My mindset was that I’m going to find a girl that likes me no matter how long it takes and how difficult this may be. Then as my skill and grit increased, so did the results.

Think Positively About Women Rejecting You

Here are a list of reasons why women will reject you that ARE NOT YOUR FAULT

• She is engaged or she’s already married (remember to look for a wedding ring before approaching)
• Her cat died or some other drama in her life prevents her from thinking about dating at the moment
• She has a boyfriend that she loves
• It’s that time of the month and she’s just not in the mood to think about meeting men (she’s on her period)
• She just lost her job and is stressed about her finances
• She’s sick today
• She has exams on and cannot focus on anything other than that right now
• The weather – It sounds weird but I’ve noticed that on a cold and rainy day, women are less likely to want a new partner

None of these are your fault, which means that you may have to meet these women before you know if any of these things are happening in her life. I’m not saying that you should spam approach every girl out there and be a nuisance to society. I’d like to suggest that you learn Indirect Daygame so you can do it covertly.

Live a Life Without Regret

Develop a greater fear of regret and understand that time is running out. Some of the top regrets of people on their death bed are :

• They often regret not going for that girl who seemed forbidden to them for some reason
• Doing what others expected of them, instead of going for what they wanted
• Not living a life true to themselves
• Not expressing their feelings more honestly
• Wished they allowed themselves to be happy

You notice how all these are connected to free and open communication. Here is a great post by A.G Hayden on ”How To Get More Girls (With The Power Of Positive Assumptions)”

Visualise An Abundant Future (Affirmations)

What you think today will often become your future. If you visualise an abundance of women in your life, this can only help to make it happen.

• If you visualise a life scarce of women, it will increase the chances of this happening
• If you visualise a life abundant with beautiful girls, this can only increase the chances of it manifesting

I’ve seen with my own eyes on many occasions, guys who have a scarce mindset as their default, come out to game and they’re stuck in their own head in the beginning. Some people call it out of state. They tell you in the beginning that they cannot see any girls to approach, even though you can see many opportunities around.

His perception is not in touch with the reality that he is surrounded with an abundance of women.

Once guys like this start to take some action, the momentum builds in a short period of time. Then his perception starts to change to more of an abundant mindset, next thing you know, he is spotting girls everywhere because he’s ”in state” now. Even though the environment he’s in, has not changed at all, it’s exactly the same as when he felt stifled and in his head.

It’s amazing how having a positive mindset can substantially change your perception of the world around you.

Assume All Girls Are Attracted to You

• A girl asks you for directions – assume that she could have asked anyone, but she asked you specifically because she wanted an opportunity to talk with you
• If you make eye contact with a girl – Assume she’s interested in you.
• Girl asks you for a lighter or cigarette – Assume she really wanted to talk to you
• You’re seated, waiting for a bus, girl sits next to you, even though there’s many other seats she could have chosen – Assume she wanted to get close to you, in the hope you would talk to her

Assuming that girls are attracted to you is your default, it won’t mean that they actually are attracted to you. All it does is open up an entire world of opportunities for you to become more social during your day to day life.

It’s a way better strategy to always open to meeting new girls, then being closed off to meeting new girls.

I’ve got a facebook group with currently over 30 hours of pick up infields that have been analysed by myself. Feel free to join up and take advantage of all the free videos.

Choosing Signals

What’s Stopping You From Getting Laid More Often?

One of my favourite books ”The Winner Effect” by Ian Robertson talks about gaining small wins and how they can compound over time. Each small win will give you a tiny boost in testosterone and this slight increase will help you to achieve the next small win. Try to focus on the small wins and they will add up over time, trust me.

Another one of my favourite books is ”Grit” by Angela Duckworth. This book talks about ”passion and perseverance for a singularly important goal”. Many people are talented yet they don’t become high achievers in their chosen field, but seem to be overtaken by people who are obsessively hard workers that are dedicated to their craft. Be dedicated and you will give yourself the best opportunity to succeed.

One good way to get laid more

Is to take live training/coaching with an expert.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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