How to lock in a girl that you either just met, you started dating, and you’re having trouble building an emotional connection.

This is how you build or have an attraction with the girl. So she keeps coming back because a lot of guys can get a lot of one-night stands.

But they do struggle to lock a girl in and they’ll sleep with a girl that they like, but they struggle to have her keep coming back and they want to lock her in. They want to have more of a serious relationship.

And I would argue that that is becoming more and more difficult these days. And with all the options that women have, well, you need to have some sort of strategy to try and lock her in

So how to build an Emotional Connection and Lock in a Girl these days, it is becoming more and more difficult to have to lock in a girl, especially in first-world Western countries.

Women these days, want to sleep around, they want to have their options open. They don’t want to be locked in.

They often talk about being trapped. The same terminology that men used to use upwards of 50 years ago and that women used to complain about even 20 or 30 years ago. Women are using that same terminology today.

So it’s flipped to the point where the advantages men used to have before I would say even I was born, even before the 70s and 60s the men were always trying to keep their options open. Now it’s flipped.

Now it’s at the point where men cannot lock in a woman. And women are now constantly saying that they don’t want to be locked down, they want their freedom.

And it’s flipped. And you can see it actually where guys that have everything going for themselves will actually pick up a girl and even sleep with her.

You would think that that would mean that the girl would then become locked in or whatever.

My Girlfriend Has Commitment Issues

But women are not taking sex that seriously these days. They’re happy to sleep around and not commit to anybody. They’re happy to have their freedom, have their cake and eat it, too, and sleep with guys until they’re ready.

When they’re (single women) in their late 20s, or early 30s, when they decide to settle down, that’s the only time when they want to settle. It depends on the woman. Some girls like to get married a little bit earlier.

Some are a bit more traditional and conservative, even though they’re living in a first-world country. But I would dare say that the vast majority of women in first-world countries are happy to sleep around and not be locked down by any man because they are strong, independent women and they want their freedom.

They want to be able to sleep around and eventually when they’re ready which is usually in their late 20s, they will only start looking for a serious relationship then and this is something that a lot of men are struggling with because men like to marry girls that are under 25 around the 20, 18 mark.

They like to marry a girl of that age and be able to have fun with her until later on years and build a life together and a strong emotional connection and then in their late 20s then start thinking about kids and settling down and having a more of a serious type of, you would argue boring, traditional relationship.

But men these days they’re struggling with the fact that they’re not able to have those five years.

They have to battle in the dating market until eventually a girl in her late 20s decides that she’s ready to get married to a guy and then they have to be hovering around waiting for that moment and as soon as they meet the girl they don’t have that fun they just have to get into a serious relationship within twelve to 24 months and then start popping out kids and start getting a mortgage immediately.

The guy doesn’t get all of that, the fun and the freedom with her in the earlier years. She does that with a multitude of other men, and only when she’s ready. She jumps in and we have to wait around for that moment.

And that tends to be what the majority of women are doing these days. And I’m going to give one strategy which I think is very effective, to lock her in.

It’s a very sneaky one, and it’s something that I didn’t create myself. It’s something that women devised when men had the advantages back in the 50s, and 60s, this is a strategy that women had devised back then.

Another factor I’d like to just say before I tell you the tip is women when they travel abroad, they’re more likely to sleep around. I think that’s common knowledge. Everyone knows about that.

They know that backpackers and girls that are on holiday, even if they’re married or have a boyfriend back home, they’re willing to sleep with a local guy because they know that no one knows about it.

They know that no one can see it. If no one is in their inner circle of friends, someone at their workplace, someone that is part of their family, if no one knows about this fling that they had when traveling, well, it didn’t happen and they don’t look bad for doing it.

And so they’re more likely to sleep around when they’re on holiday or backpacking.

How To Lock In My Girlfriend For a Serious Relationship

This is something that when you think about the strategy to try to lock in a girl. Once you’ve met a girl.

The strategy that I would argue that you should implement immediately if you slept with her and you like her, but you know, she’s the type of girl that’s going to want to hit the clubs next weekend and probably meet another guy and forget about you within a couple of months.

And she’s not a backpacker. She’s not here on a visa, and she’s not looking to marry you so that she can get citizenship or get a PR. She’s a local girl.

She’s a first-world girl that’s educated. She’s got everything going for herself, and you’d love to lock her in. You guys get on well and she knows that you guys get on well, but she wants the freedom. Everyone wants freedom these days. But there’s a strategy to try to lock her in.

And I would argue that the best strategy is after you say you slept with her, you’ve got to the point where it’s become serious in a general sense, not in her mind most of the time because a lot of girls sleep around these days.

The strategy that you should use is trying to meet her friends and family as fast as possible now.

That sneaky little trick would be if you sleep with her, you say you drive home if she happens to live with her parents you invite yourself in and introduce yourself to the mum.

And the dad she probably would not want you to do that but the trick is to meet either her friends which is a lower percentage play because her friends are more likely to want to tell her to be a strong, independent woman and play the field and have freedom.

So meeting a friend, even if a friend is like you they will still say you are 20, 21 you can find another guy like this later on. You’ve still got plenty more years, girl, why get locked down with this guy right now?

Wait until you’re in your late 20s and wait until you’re ready.

So if friends aren’t always going to be a very powerful play for you but you can try it I would also argue that if you were to introduce her to your friends it also brings her into your tribe.

Literally if you do meet her in a nightclub and you pull her back to your place and it’s kind of like a fling for breakfast try to meet up with your friends and take her out to breakfast with your friends and introduce her to all your friends.

Try to see if her friends are around and try to get them all together so that you’ve kind of locked in it to all your friends and her friends that it’s kind of a relationship immediately and as fast as possible, because then if next weekend she’s sleeping around with another guy, she looks bad amongst some of her friends.

Not all of her friends are going to see things that way, but they’ll also feel that it’s kind of a serious it’s a bit more serious than a little sneaky fling.

And she’s doing the walk of shame out of your place and catching the bus home by herself. She’s having breakfast with her friends and your friends and it’s kind of a bit more official at that point.

That is a very powerful way to start to lock in the girl because then if she wants to sleep around someone else, she might look bad amongst everybody.

Ask To Meet Her Family

But the most powerful play is you going back and meeting her mom or her dad and being super-duper friendly with them. Because even if it’s a guy.

Guys do have a bit more freedom in that area. We’re expected to sleep around. Come on, that’s just kind of how it is.

If our parents see us or meet a girl that we’re dating and then literally a month later we are seeing another girl, our parents are going to think a little bit less of us as a guy.

But if you’re their daughter and your daughter’s got a different guy every month or every six months, they’re still going to question you as well. They’re going to question the girl.

They’re going to question her more so than the guy if he’s sleeping around. So they’re going to judge a daughter more than they do a son. And that’s just something that is one of those traditional things that I think all cultures have.

She’s a little bit less reliable. There might be something wrong with her in the eyes of her parents. Often her parents are in their late forties, fifties, or sixties.

So they’re from more of a traditional background. And if they’re from an immigrant background maybe a second or third world country, they’re more likely to be traditional.

And so the last thing they want is their daughter sleeping around with a multitude of guys. So if you can present yourself in a good light and be super friendly and make a few jokes with mom and dad.

When you meet mom, you go, Hi, mom, and be super friendly and she can shine off the mom and the dad likes you, they will be your best bet and they will be your best advocates in the home because they will ask her, Where’s that guy that we met last weekend, where is he now? You are still seeing him?

The question will pop up and she’ll be more likely to be influenced into getting to know you a little bit better. And that will also buy you a little bit more time to build an emotional connection with her.

In my pro dating opinion, this is one of the most powerful strategies for locking in a girl that you like. Sure, there are lots of guys that will say, look, throw a lot of money around trying to impress her with your status or your career or whatever.

Her Friends and Family Will Become You Advocate

I would say that meeting her parents as fast as possible in a casual way and sort of tricking her into it, maybe saying, look, I’ll drop you home. Hang on. Can I just quickly go in and use the toilet?

Oh, Hi, mom. And you somehow get inside to meet the mum and the dad. Boom. They will then, even if they’re on the fence about you, they’re not so sure about you. They will still ask her about you.

If she seems to be dating multiple different guys, then they will start to say things to her and question what she’s doing with her life.

They really would. And that’s the best strategy for locking in a girl. And I think that you should implement that if you’ve met a girl recently and you want to lock her in because quite often I hear stories of guys meeting girls and something goes wrong.

The girl starts to get a bit bored or she starts to drift away and they don’t know why.

They don’t know whether she’s sleeping with someone else. They don’t know whether she’s lost interest in him or whether he’s doing something wrong.

This is just a part of dating girls with all the options that they have today, especially in first-world countries. They just drift away because they have so many options. And the entire world in a first-world country is just handed to them on a silver platter.

They don’t need to even work for it if they are under 25 and they’re good-looking, the entire world is handed to them on a silver platter and it’s easy for them.

Unfortunately, it’s not always your fault. Well, fortunately, it’s not always your fault and you’re not always to blame for them getting bored and drifting away.

So I would say that the best strategy for you to use would be to try to lock them in this way and meet the parents as fast as possible because this is what women have been using for hundreds of years to try and lock in men.

They meet the parents and then he looks pretty bad if he’s sleeping around, doesn’t he?

And so that strategy now we need to adapt to try and lock in women because women are more likely to sleep around and be promiscuous than we are and we need to try and lock them in.

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