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Prevention is always better than the cure. Women can get up and leave at any moment, no matter how long you’ve known her for. You could be married for 20 years and tomorrow you wake up alone and she’s disappeared.
This is the harsh reality out there. So here’s some strategies that have helped me to avoid the emotional pain of rejection for many years now.
There are a few ways I invented to beat rejection from girls and today we are going to talk about some of those strategies. I’m going to give you actionable mindsets that should help you overcome rejection from girls.
Sure, exposure to rejection does work sometimes, but if you are blindly heading into a tonne of rejection without proper strategies, you may end up turning to the dark side and becoming a bitter woman hater. This is not what anyone wants.
Rejection from girls isn’t the main issue you have, it’s the emotional pain that comes with rejection from girls. If you never felt sad or depressed after being rejected by a girl you want to keep around.
You would move forward with the required action, until you find a girl who is everything you desire and wants you in return.
Prevention Is Better Than The Cure
Rejection is a part of life, there is nothing we can do about that. Even the highest status male, the most attractive, the most famous men out there, all of them, they are all rejected and far more often then you may think.
The main reason why you fear rejection, is entirely the emotional pain, that you don’t want to feel, because it hurts. This fear prevents you from taking the action needed for success, before you’re rejected and after being rejected.
By removing these feelings caused by rejection, we can increase the amount of action required for success in the harsh/brutal world of dating.
Today I’m going to try give you the tools and strategies that help myself to have success with girls way out of my league on a consistent basis. This requires you to make game a lifestyle, by turning up everyday and taking consistent action.
Without consistent action over a prolonged period of time, unfortunately you won’t get the results you desire.
Rejection Can Stop You From Finding a Girl
In my teens, rejection hurt my feelings, this was mostly due to a lack of experience. I’d make out with or have sex with a girl at a party, then turn her into a girlfriend. Things would always go wrong, we would break up after a short period of time and this hurt.
Then I’d find a new girl the next weekend. It’s important to understand the importance of moving forward, or ”getting back on the horse” as the saying goes.
Even though losing girls was frustrating and most of the time I had no idea why they didn’t stick around, intuitively I knew that moving on to the next girl was the only way forward.
Deep down, I knew that one of these girls would stick, and after a short period of time, I had more girls than I knew what to do with.
Keep moving forward!
Building an emotional connection is about getting her hooked on you. Guard your emotions until it’s safe to open up.
Dave Lee
Exposure To Rejection Training
Luckily for myself, I started sleeping with and dating copious amounts of girls way earlier than the majority of men out there. The rejection hurt badly, especially after getting to know girls over a period of time, dating them, sleeping with them etc
The more rejection you can expose yourself to without becoming angry and bitter with women, the better you will feel. Today I want to give you some of my tips on facing rejection without the emotional trauma associated with it.
Avoiding all rejection is impossible, the world is a mean place full of rejection. Often guys will avoid cold approach altogether, which will get you no where. Blaming your inability to approach girls on ”approach anxiety” and turning to masturbating over porn in your room, while swiping right on dating apps.
Nothing good in life comes without hard work, pain and effort. It’s just how the world works. The dating market is a war zone full of lonely, bitter men who have failed. Prepare for war, prepare for pain, know it’s coming and enjoy the ride.
I’m at a stage in my life where this whole dating scene is just a big game that I do for fun. When you get to where I am, in my opinion you have won. Now lets get on to helping you get there with me.
She Must Catch Feelings First
The only thing you can control is what you do and whether you like to admit it, you can control your feelings. The goal here is to avoid catching feelings before she does, for two reasons.
- You’ll become needy
- If she doesn’t catch feelings after you, it will hurt
Catching feelings first will make you act differently around her, you’ll be more likely to become more needy and this could, it won’t always, but most of the time, it will push her away. And of course, if you have feelings for a girl and she leaves you, this will obviously hurt. So, lets try avoid this.
Strategies To Deal With Rejection From Girls
- See dating as a game in the early stages
- Don’t save or remember her name
- Have a rotation
- Treat women with the same disregard they treat us
- Always be looking for new girls (no matter what)
Dating is a game, have fun with it. You should never take yourself too seriously and that advice should be extended to dating. When you are playing a game, you know that when you lose a game, next time you can play again.
I think some guys see dating as something that totally ends when a girl rejects them, this is untrue. You have unlimited opportunities to date girls, so, take the pressure off and start to enjoy it. This will help with your results too.
Her name is not important until she’s caught feelings for you. There have been many times when I’ve been sleeping with a girl for many weeks or even months without even knowing her name. This is not because I’m a misogynist, it’s a deliberate strategy that protects my emotions from rejection.
I deliberately don’t save a girls name as a contact in my phone and don’t ask for her name. If I don’t know her name, then I can convince myself she’s not real.
Have a rotation of girls. Once you get one girl to date, continue meeting and dating more and more until you have built a rotation of girls you can see on a regular basis. Making game a lifestyle is a huge part of this.
Treat women with the same disregard they treat us. The harsh reality out there is, women don’t see all men as human, or better explained, they don’t care about the majority of men’s human rights. This is just how they are, it’s just the natural state of women in general. This strategy is not misogynist, nor is it out of anger, it’s purely a strategy to protect yourself.
See all girls you meet as a number, not as a person, to avoid catching feelings for them. This is controversial, but when a girl can get up and leave at any moment while talking to you for the first time, she’s not really treating you like a person either.
Always be cold approaching girls, even if you are in a serious relationship. When you isolate yourself and focus on one girl, she has all the leverage at this point. If she rejects you, it is going to hurt far more than if you have other options or the self belief that she can be replaced fast.
A large amount of the pain men feel when they are rejected, comes from the feeling that she’s the only one and they will be alone for a long time until they find a new girl. Approaching new girls will dilute the pain of rejection, trust me.
Here are some of my best posts:
- Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
- What is indirect daygame
- What I say to Girls (Logistics)
- How to Write a PickUp field report
- How to spot a fake dating coach
- How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
- Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid
If you want to learn more about the sweet art of cold approach, Enquire here, join my group, where I’ll have a chat to you before entering. Get my free video series and finally, if you are adventurous, try my 30 day challenge.
Cold Approach Skills Beat Rejection
This is something that I teach my students, the sweet art of cold approach. If you want to learn a little about me, join my facebook group here to see infield pickups. And here’s a free 3 part video series on cold approach. In the side bar of this post, I’ve got a 30 day challenge which is perfect for beginners too, check it out.
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