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My opinion on what an alpha male is, may differ from many of the ideas out there. Let’s start with what an alpha male is definitely not.

The image portrayed in the media of an alpha male is usually the tallest and most muscular man in society, this is what most people envisage.

If that was the case, then you don’t need to read this post anymore, there would be nothing to learn and nothing to do accept being born with great genetics. Simply spend all day in the gym, eat protein drinks and shave your chest. Easy, alpha male level achieved.

Surely theres more to it than that…

The image of a huge man covered in muscles, who’s tall, and seems so tough and invincible, that no one could ever hurt him, is false. It’s a fake myth, because all of the biggest men in the world can be hurt, they get tired, they have weaknesses, etc.

Learning to suffer with grace, is a learned skill. Learning to deal with extreme adversity is a skill that can only be learned by facing adversity. 
Learning to deal with extreme pain is a skill that can be learned. Small things like being punched in the face and dealing with the pain and embarrassment without seeking revenge at an extreme level is also a learned skill. 

Taking all of those negative feelings and instead making something constructive out if it, take far more courage than being born with great genetics and therefore never being tested by society. 

The amount of times I’ve seen with my own eyes a massive ”alpha male” break down, due to the pressures of life, is countless. Without the proper exposure to pain and adversity, even the perfect image of an alpha male can be broken down by society.

From my point of view, there’s two types of alpha male:

• The muscular adonis who visibly looks like a tough alpha male
• And the man who has suffered extreme pain and learned to become an alpha male of the mind

What does being an alpha male entail? What characteristics define an alpha male? What it takes to emerge as an alpha male. In this article, I’ll break down the alpha male attribute that you’ll need to become a better version of who you are and live your best life.

What exactly is an alpha male?

An alpha male is a man who other men aspire to be, that women aspire to be with, and that gets what he want-generally women. Alpha males are the epitome of self-assurance. They’re courteous, but they’re also a capable leader.

If you want to be perceived as an alpha male, strive to imitate the attributes you notice in other natural leaders, such as posture and mannerism, and avoid taking complete control of things in the process.

Alpha males are frequently referred to as “knuckle draggers”… domineering, pompous, and obnoxious characters like Jordan Belfort, Hank Moody, and Don Draper. 

Characteristics of an Alpha male:

Regardless of their culture and history, alpha males have certain characteristics in common. These characteristics enable them to make the most of life by constantly challenging and improving themselves.

• Even when he doesn’t feel in control, they are confident. The key characteristic of an alpha male is his confidence in handling any subject or issue, which often involves entrusting a situation to the professional. The traditional alpha, on the other hand, would try to control any situation even if they don’t have any previous experience with that situation. 
• Leaders: An alpha guy will work toward his own goals while also looking out for and protecting those around him.
• Positive: He is incredibly positive, which is one of the most crucial alpha male personality attributes. He exudes cheerful energy that uplifts everyone around him. And who wouldn’t want to be in the company of a man like that? An alpha seeks out a problem to solve, not the other way around. 
• Why there is no comfort zone for an alpha male: Alpha males thrive on challenges. This means stepping outside of their comfort zone. As a result, nothing appears to be too difficult for them. The other side of this is that they appear to be the pack’s leader; they know how to neutralize any hazards before putting the entire pack in jeopardy.
• Stop Being Scared: This doesn’t imply you shouldn’t be feared; it’s nearly impossible to be fearless. Alphas still experience fear, but they go on and take their intended course of action nevertheless. An alpha male’s defining quality is the ability to assess risk and be confident.

Fighting

Always try to avoid getting into a fight: At all costs, almost. Fights in real life don’t correct wrongs or bring justice.

They can possibly result in prison sentences and criminal records, life-altering injuries, and one-punch deaths, escalation, and retribution — against you or your loved ones.

By all means, consider how you would react if the situation arose. Learn martial arts if it helps you feel better and isn’t merely a way to vent pent-up anger that would be better handled with the help of a therapist.

But always take a step back. You’re not a true man if you feel compelled to prove that you’re an alpha male or a “real man.”

Set Goals

Set a goal for yourself: Let’s imagine you want to improve your body in relation to the previous point. Great! Set a goal for yourself to work out for a certain amount of time each day.

If you want the automobiles of your dreams, work hard and save wisely so that you may soon park that gleaming ride in your garage.

Think For Yourself

Sheep follow the crowd and do what the majority of people think is the correct path. An alpha male will listen to others and make his decisions based on logic.

Feelings will never make a true alpha male change his mind, instead he will always do what he thinks is right, even if it means going against what the majority of people say is the correct path.

Care For Others

Kindness and a drive to do well are two defining characteristics of alpha guys (despite what you may hear in the media). For the purpose of being a good guy, not for the sake of recognition or acclaim.

Keep the restaurant’s door open. Donate a small amount of cash to a cause that you care about (extra points if you don’t tell anyone).

Smile at strangers, or should I say your fellow humans, with whom you share this earth, and show real interest in those you encounter. It’s not all about you, you, and you in life.

Be confident in your own skin

Evaluate and accept every aspect of who you are. Never try to hide or change who you are in order to impress others. Instead, try to be the best model of yourself.

Make the most of your unique qualities. Are you a nerd? Make yourself the best nerd you can be. Do you use a manual wheelchair? That’s means you receive a daily arm workout.

You’ll see that you have a few shortcomings, such as a lack of assertiveness or a tendency to be judgmental at times. Tell yourself this: Everyone has flaws.

That doesn’t imply I am a nasty person. I’m working on it, and I am going to become better. A confident man is unconstrained by limited definitions of masculinity.

An insecure man may believe that he must always be 100 percent manly. A confident man, on the other hand, isn’t scared to wear pink, make cookies, cry if he has to, have a tea party with a little girl, or do other “feminine” activities if he wants to.

It’s not my problem if other people think it’s unmanly. He’s well aware that he’s a man.

Encourage Others

Again, if someone has improved, acknowledge it, but be discreet in your expression of gratitude. People won’t notice your appreciation if you just throw appreciative remarks away on every occasion.

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