This is easier than you might think, so many men put way too much pressure on themselves to perform in front of women, but you don’t have to.

Women love a spontaneous, positive man who say what he thinks and is fun to be around. This doesn’t mean that you have to be fake in any way, this is something you should avoid, as women can see straight through fake men. So let’s break down some concrete things you can do to be more charming around women.

Loosen up, be fearless, say what you want and act how you feel. Bring her into your world, this is what a charming man does.

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We Are Trying To Work Together Frame

Many men find themselves trying to impress the girl, they will put an extreme amount of pressure on themselves to be or act as someone the girl would be attracted to.

This is where the whole ”DHV” let’s not pretend to be yourself, let’s display high value or fake it to you make it. This is just fake and transparent.

Women are far more socially aware than men, I’d argue that being caught out faking high status, would hurt your chances with her more than being more authentic.

Let go, try to ignore any possibility of her judging you. Release yourself from the chains of impressing her and relax. Now you are ready to properly engage her on an even playing field. This will help you to see all her flaws, which will relax you further. Challenge her beliefs, ask questions that see if she is compatible for you.

Keep in mind, no matter how beautiful she is, this is not an interview, she is not the boss, this is equal, you have just as much power as she does.

Be Positive And Do What You Love

Positivity is powerful around women, if you can stop stressing about impressing her and let go of all negative feelings, you’ll be more charming. Smile, if something funny happens, try to laugh, be positive and enjoy yourself.

This is spontaneous. If you are having fun, she will have fun, next thing you know, she’ll be eating out of the palm of your hand.

Choose a venue and thing you like to do. This will help you to enjoy being around her, if you enjoy what you and her are doing together, you’ll be more relaxed, which will naturally make you more positive to be around.

Vibe is so important, avoid doing something that you think she’ll enjoy because you want to impress her, I could expand with an entire book on why this is a bad idea. Forget the whole DHV thing, simply focus on helping yourself be more positive, and picking something you love to do will help with your vibe greatly.

Bring Her Into Your World

The definition of Charm is : the power or quality of delighting, attracting, or fascinating others.

You cannot charm a girl by entering her world and doing everything in your power to impress her. Being charming to women is making everything about you, bring her into your world, take her where you want to go, take her to do things you want to do.

Authenticity is charming to women. Don’t be fake and try pretend to like things that are ”cool”, this is what most men do and it’s so transparent. Something that you like doing which you might think is uncool, can be acceptable to her if you are passionate about it.

A topic or activity/sport etc that you talk about passionately, could very well become fascinating to her, as long as you sell it to her. Remember to bring her into your world, if she like it there, she may very well stay.

Charming Men Are Great Listeners

Men who are charming, are great communicators, while having the ability to listen carefully too. Anyone can make strong eye contact and show signs he’s listening. But men with charm can comprehend what she is saying fast, then relay it back to her in a way that proves that he’s fully understood what she’s saying.

Making her feel understood is a skill in itself, but with practise, you can become a great listener.

The Secret Sauce To Become Charming

Without this part, the whole aspect of charming a woman will be, simply a friend to friend relationship. You don’t want to be friend zoned do you? Good, always slow things down once she’s been charmed into your world.

Once you’ve shown her some positive emotions and brought her into your world. It’s time to slow down and focus more on her. If you keep spiking her emotions all night, she’ll see you as a joker or clown. Increase the intensity of your eye contact, while touching her more, bring her closer to you.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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