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Let’s start with the bad news first, and please don’t take this the wrong way, it’s better you know this now, it will help you make better decisions moving forward.
Charisma is something that can be refined over time, but there’s only so much training that can increase your charisma. Sure you can get small wins, but the hard truth is, your ability to connect with people in a charismatic way is something that is taught as a child.
If your parents did a good job socializing you with other kids as a toddler, or you were lucky enough to have siblings around who were in close contact with you as a toddler.
How do You Know if You Are Charismatic?
The hard truth is, people who were socialized well at a young age, have an advantage in social awareness that grows at a faster rate than people who were not.
Toddlers who have this advantage at a young age, are rarely caught up to by people who did not have the advantage of being socialized young.
Again, this is good news, because you can start to look for more effective strategies to improve your results with women, some of them I teach myself here (sydneynswbusiness@gmail.com) send me an email and we can have a chat.
How Charisma Can Help Attract Women More Effectivly
This is especially for men who are introverted and want to be charismatic. (You can imagine how it feels!) There’s no excuse not to be around women because you’re insecure about your charisma and do not want to lose your authenticity while making yourself more charismatic.
What is Charisma?
Charisma is the ability to create a certain feeling in people and make them like you.
It has nothing to do with what you say or do but is more of an attitude and energy. A charismatic individual can make anyone feel his or her sense of warmth and friendliness, while others might have a hard time even looking at them.
Many people believe that charisma is in nature, and you cannot build it otherwise. While the reality is that charisma is a skill that you can learn and develop with practice.
It is not something unachievable, and anyone can learn, develop and boost charisma. You can boost it by smiling more often, being more positive about every day, making eye contact with strangers, try starting up a conversation too.
Having the ability to bring new people into your life by getting to know new people on a daily basis.
In the book The Charisma Myth, authors Olivia Fox Cabane and Joe Vitale discuss the secrets of how to be more charismatic around women. They say that to become more charismatic; you need to practice a few things regularly like;
- You need to mirror the behavior of the person you’re trying to charm. This will make them see a reflection of themselves in your actions, and they will feel a sense of connection and power.
- You also need to use their name in conversation, which reaffirms that they’re important to you.
- You should focus on them while talking instead of focusing on yourself or what you’re going to say next.
- When talking with someone, you should look at them during the conversation instead of looking away from them even if it feels uncomfortable.
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Charismatic Tools You Can Use
The Charismatic Guy’s Toolkit contains a collection of helpful ideas and best practices that can make life easier. Here are some social tips you can adopt to be more charismatic around women:
1) Be confident and powerful
2) Be authentic
3) Have strong body language
3 Steps To Charisma
You have to work on all these on your own. It might be hard at first, but you can adopt the following habits, and these can help you adopt the skills of a charismatic person:
- Connect with people this is very important. For this, you may have to adopt some social habits for connecting easily. For example, make eye contact often, nod your head while connecting with the people, ask follow-up questions to show that you care, and listen with attention.
- Try reading an inspirational book or going out into a crowded room with the group, asking them questions that motivate you to live life. Then practice what you’ve learned in front of those who aren’t impressed or confused about how much they know. Once you do get better than 1-2% charisma from being “yourself,” keep trying if you’re feeling confident enough already. But always remember: When all else fails, feel empowered!
- Communicate through your moves. Oh yes, that’s equally important unless you’re an expert in non-verbal communication.
Here are some ways to enhance your body language
● Reputation
● Eye contact
● Check your posture while having conversations
● Get to know your facial expressions (especially in listening)
● Flexibility about others opinions and certain decisions
● Don’t be judgemental
In dating life, a confident and powerful man is much more appealing and acts like a magnet to the other person. A man who is confident and truthful that he gives warmth to others around him.
Many people, especially men, fear that if they practice and adopt a charismatic approach, they will lose the authenticity of their personalities. Well, that’s not true.
Being a charismatic person doesn’t mean going against your nature and putting yourself away from your true self. But learning to be charismatic makes you a better person in front of others while living in your actual personality.
You get a better understanding of yourself, and that in reality draws people towards you and keeps your authenticity intact.
Most introverted men want to be more charismatic. But charisma is not something that can be found in a book or taught in a class.
You have to work on it on your own, and for this reason, there are different practices to become more charismatic. And now you’ve read different ways and approaches for it, and it will be easier for you to adopt them.
Prepare yourself mentally and accept the fact that you cannot change people’s opinions about you, what they think of your personality etc., so focus on yourself and do what best suits you.
Develop your skills of persuasion by understanding what constitutes persuasion and how it is achieved through various methods such as rational explanation, emotional appeal, etc.
The most important and rewarding fact – practice! Practice as often as possible.
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