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How to Ask a Girl Out on a romantic date for sex the first time you meet her, for most men this is out of their reality but it can happen and this is something that I teach my clients to do. Men are capable of meeting a girl and taking her on a date immediately, which could end up in the bedroom.

Today we are going to focus purely on meeting a girl through cold approach pickup, how to meet a girl, how to tell if she’s interested, how to ask her out, then we’ll talk about the date and a few other things too.

Cold Approach PickUp

My student had no problems at all approaching girls in any situation possible, he had zero approach anxiety at all. He had been doing game for almost 2 years at this point (1.5 yrs plus) but wasn’t getting any results, he had also done a pickup bootcamp before, so he wasn’t exactly a newbie.

One problem he had was having some difficulty with leading, he would approach a girl and then get stuck in a conversation to no-where, with no real strategy to move the interaction forward. This was partially because he had been exposed to so much pickup theory online, which taught him mostly bad ideas, the reason is, most dating coaches out there are just marketers, they don’t practice what they preach.

Compliance off the Cold Approach

Compliance off the cold approach is so important, you can cold approach a woman and she may be interested immediately. Here’s a few signs she’s interested immediately.

• She stops to talk and doesn’t want to leave the conversation
• She tells you that she has nothing to do (huge sign)
• She giggles at what you say, even if it’s not funny
• She asks you questions

Most of the time a girl will be busy and if she’s not busy and not interested in you, she’ll lie and tell you that she is busy. Long story short, girls who are interested are never busy, even if they truly are busy. So, if a girl says she’s busy, you should say good bye, don’t ask for her number.

Look for compliance : Instead of continuing a conversation to no-where, you should test for compliance fast. Try a few of these things.

• Ask her to move to the side of the footpath, to avoid blocking the footpath
• Ask her to sit down on a seat nearby
• Invite her to walk with you to a shop, so you can buy something

In this instance below, I used this opportunity to demonstrate to my student how to get compliance off the cold approach immediately. She told me that she was not busy and had nothing to do (big sign she’s interested). So, I asked her to come for a walk with me to check out a few places to eat, then invited her to eat with me. She showed 100% compliance, we sat down and started ordering dinner.

Below my student filmed us walking, straight after I approached her.

Using Social Proof to Date a Girl – Social Status

Social proof is simply when you invite your friends to join you and meet the girl you are trying to impress. She get’s to meet your friends and it shows social status depending on how high status your friends seem to be. But I’d argue that even low status friends can give social proof, if you have many of them (numbers matter).

In this situation, I invited my student to join dinner with us, just for educational purposes. My goal was to demonstrate getting compliance off the cold approach and leading.

Leading a Girl is so Important on a Date

When on a date with a girl, the worst thing you can do is say ”what would you like to do now?”, this shows uncertainty and that you are not a high status male.

What you should do is, have the mentality of ”lets go here” or ”come on, we’re going”. The girl can always say no, I’m going home now or whatever. But if she’s interested in you, she’ll just come with you where ever you want (within reason of course).

So, after dinner I said lets go to a bar with my friends and she complied. We hit a bar so that my student had a table to return to after he did approaches and to show social proof to my student.

Assume that She is going to Stay with you Tonight

Self belief is an important aspect of learning the sweet art of cold approach. Just assuming that you and the girl you are with are going home together is so powerful, self belief is the difference between a winner and a loser in the dating scene.

If you find yourself asking ”would you like to stay at my place tonight?” or something along those lines, there’s a good chance that she will go from wanting to stay at your place to questioning if you are really a low value man.

Women can smell weakness and low value men from a mile away. Sure you can be low value and get laid because she is physically attracted to you, we are not necessarily talking about this here. Having ”game” in my opinion, is getting girls who are above your mate value and using proper strategies to date and sleep with them.

One of the most powerful methods, is to always project confidence and high status and we can do this by looking for compliance and leading.

As you can see below, I went back to her hotel and invited my student over for a spa in the morning.

Cold Approach Pickup Conclusion

This is just a very basic overview of how you can do this yourself, there’s only so much you can learn from blog posts and videos on meeting and attracting women. The only way to get good at this, is to take action by getting live coaching.

I’ve got a 30 day challenge on this page for beginners, you should try that to get started, plus join up to my free newsletter and Facebook group ”onemanslifemission” to watch copious amounts of educational cold approach infield breakdowns. Finally, I’ve written a good post on why game is a lifestyle, not a hobby. Check it out

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

If you want to learn more about the sweet art of cold approach, Enquire here, join my group, where I’ll have a chat to you before entering. Get my free video series and finally, if you are adventurous, try my 30 day challenge.