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Hitting the clubs to meet girls is totally different than any other strategy if you have never done this before or you have been trying with little results, here are a few reasons why you may not be having consistent results:

• Not enough energy
• Too drunk
• Overthinking what to say to girls in the club
• Standing in the corner, holding a drink, hoping a girl will approach you

To be successful in the clubs, you’ll need to understand how seriously chaotic all nightclubs are. They are loud, mostly dark, almost everyone inside the club is drunk or on drugs, it’s seriously chaos.

When you go from any other environment into this chaotic environment, it will put most people into a trance.

Acclimatize To The Nightclub

Most guys who are new to this think they can jump straight into night game and dominate, then they hit the clubs and freeze up. Usually, their first idea is to start drinking to help with the nerves, which does work in the short term, but this will never build proper confidence.

In fact, the opposite, guys who start drinking to deal with the pressure of night game, mostly end up with alcohol problems and the subsequent mental issues that follow.

Instead, I recommend that you start slowly, by hitting the clubs on a Thursday, Friday, and Saturday all by yourself and only spend about an hour each night, walking around the club sober.

This will build up your understanding of what it truly means to hit the clubs, you’ll be able to take in everything that happens, and most importantly, you’ll have the ability to acclimatize to being in this chaotic environment, which will make you feel more comfortable with it.

High Energy

Now that you are totally acclimatized to the environment, it’s time to start interacting with people within the club.

Energy is everything in night game, low energy guys who want to have intellectual conversations will always come across as weirdos in this environment. So, you need to bring a big smile, high energy levels, which will be directed at every girl you can possibly start a conversation with.

How You Say It Matters

What you say doesn’t matter, as much as how you say it. The goal here is to bring that high energy to every interaction while being as free as possible.

If you overthink what to say next, she will sense a lack of confidence and probably talk to someone else. Energy is the key and talking non-stop about whatever comes to mind. You can use word association to keep the flow happening, but remember not to overthink it.

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With lockdowns all over the world slowly easing, you may be considering going to a club. But whether you’re just rusty or completely clueless, approaching girls is never as simple as we’d like to think it is.

It doesn’t help that nightclubs are loud, crowded, and overwhelming, especially for those of you that don’t have a lot of experience with women.

However, there is a reason clubs have a reputation for being good places to find women, most women who hit nightclubs are going there exclusively to meet a guy. There’s a higher probability that most of the girls you approach will be single and ready to meet a guy.

So, if you need to learn how to approach a girl in a club, you’re in the right place!

3 Steps to Approach a Girl in a Club

Step One

It’s a catchphrase touted everywhere: if you look good, you feel good. And women can tell when you’re insecure or nervous. They also like men who smell nice, are well-groomed, and wear nice clothes, especially if it’s their first impression of you.

At the very least, before you arrive at the club, take a shower, brush your teeth, and wear clean clothes. Imagine if you were going to a job interview; you’d put your best foot forward, right? The same applies to women.

Step Two

Above everything else, project confidence. Even if you’re terrified, swallow it all down, smile, and walk over. Good posture helps, too. No girl wants to talk to someone who looks uncomfortable, mainly when there are hundreds of other people in the same room.

Your opener doesn’t need to be complicated, by the way! Keep it short, sweet, and straightforward. Telling her your name and asking her how she achieves the same as an elaborate pick-up line, sometimes even more.
To put it simply: just get yourself on her radar.

Step Three

There are a million contradicting rules about what you should talk about in a club, how you should say it, and why. If you boil all these rules down though, you see a few core ideas crop up again and again. Be enthusiastic.

If you’re having a good time talking to her, she’s far more likely to have a good time talking to you too!

Compliment her. Not too much or too eagerly, but real compliments that let her know you’re present and paying attention to her: “your hair’s really cute” or similar compliments work really well.

Listen to her! Girls really appreciate someone who pays attention to them, and if she’s talking to you then you better listen. Don’t just sit and nod: engage when it’s appropriate, ask questions, offer your own anecdotes. Build a rapport.

Touch her. Now, when I say this, don’t be a creep. Don’t touch her for too long, or in appropriate places. Touch her shoulders, upper back, arms, and hands when the opportunity grants itself: physical touch has been proven to make you seem more attractive, and it fosters intimacy between you and a girl.

Avoid being too eager. Neediness shows her that you’re needy, and that makes you less desirable to her. Part of seduction is the chase after all, for both people involved.

Lastly, leave her alone if she’s brushing you off. You don’t want to be that guy.

Step Four

The supposed definition of insanity is trying something the same way over and over and expecting a different result. Talking to women is no different! If you learn that most women in your culture don’t like it when you, for example, ignore her friends, next time try and engage her friends.

Things like this will vary woman by woman, location by location, but try and build up your own roadmap from your own experience. Hopefully, these tips will get you approaching girls in clubs with massive success! Let me know your experiences and if you have any other tips that work for you.