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Breakup? How long will you suffer?

The facts here are, break ups suck, they really do. If you have invested or are invested in this relationship, it’s going to hurt you badly. You may even become depressed, this is serious, I recommend you take it seriously.

You will go through a period, where you lack motivation, despair will creep in. A feeling like you are lost, sometimes you’ll find yourself walking around, just wondering what you are doing, whats the meaning of it all, it’s going to hurt you.

There is some good news though, I know you may not feel like you’ll ever get out of this. The key is doing the right things to facilitate a good recovery, not doing things that prolong the pain.

Don’t isolate yourself

During this period you’ll want to avoid people, because they’ll see you at your worst. Yup, that does make sense, they will see the worst of you, but this will only prolong the pain you suffer.

Even though your friends will look at you and say ”wtf has happened to you” hell, maybe they will lose some respect for you, but you have to get back out there and socialize as soon as possible.

Avoid self medicating with drugs and alcohol

Sure, it’s okay to do it once, however, if you associate drinking with bad feelings, you’ll feel bad everytime you drink, how about we save it for a celebration instead?

During this time, you will need to feel the pain to get over it. Think about it this way, there is a specific amount of pain you will have to deal with right now, you will have to deal with it whether you like it or not.

Every time you drink or take drugs, you are avoiding the pain which prolongs your recovery from this painful breakup.

This is your time to be selfish and take care of yourself

This is a great opportunity for you to be selfish, how better of an excuse is a breakup, this is the best time for you to take care of yourself.

Pamper yourself with a nice massage, expensive new wardrobe, hell, you could even come on a pick up session with me here.

Look here, if you dm me and say that you read this post, you just went through a serious breakup and you want to get away, look after yourself and go on a massive pick up session in a nice cheap country.

If you message me with all this, I’ll give you a discount on a travel immersion.

How do you end a relationship with someone you love?

You’ve been dumped, and you feel like the world around you collapsed. You lost your interest in everything but the picture of your ex.

You don’t eat, you don’t sleep, you feel grumpy, and you’ve isolated yourself in your bedroom. Sitting on your bed, you’re wondering how long you’ll feel like crap. As a bearer of good news, I’m pleased to share some key points to keep in mind and some tips to help you get better, faster.

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We are all different.

There’s no exact science about how long it might take you to digest your loss. Many factors may result in a better coping attitude or with more dramatic views. You may look first at your mental state and itemize each trauma, belief, and perceptions you hold. 

Psychiatrists estimate that around 5% of the population has perfectly equilibrated mental health. If your reaction to a breakup is more explosive than what most humans usually experience, you might consider looking for help.

Looking away is the wrong answer.

Some will entertain the idea of quickly replacing their ex with a new girlfriend. This attitude is reckless and can only lead you to more sadness and pain. This attitude promotes lingering inabilities further in time. 

Your previous relationship and its failure should serve as a wake-up call to scrutinize your mindsets and social abilities. It can also help to reveal the root cause bringing you to select toxic people as lovers.

If you believe you are the type to repeat a pattern (ex. Always being with a jealous woman), then you’ll help yourself by pausing your dating process and introspecting for answers.

What is the science saying about breakups?

Now, some of you could care less about introspection and psychology and would wish for simple numbers. As it turns out, some studies have been published on the subject.

A first study revealed that the average Americans would take more than three months and eleven days before feeling ready to engage again in a relationship.

Another analysis performed on 155 college students took almost eleven weeks to recover from their breakup. On the other hand, a study showed that divorced women would need an average of 17 months before feeling compelled to engage again.

There is a gap between the way man and woman experience their emotions. We should feel lucky!

There you go! You now have a basic template to help you navigate the waters of singleness. We established that your bereavement might extend for quite some time, depending on your state of mind and any mental health issues.

We also suggested resisting the idea of chasing all the pussycats in the neighborhood to remedy your loneliness.

It would be best if you enjoyed the time given to you by this breakup to introspect and look for self-improvement opportunities.

Finally, as it sometimes helps to establish a baseline to support the process, we saw that men generally took around three months to recover from their last relationship.

If the wait bothers you, pick up the latest playboy calendar and cross the dates for the next three months. It might, at least, make your experience more enjoyable.