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First impressions last. You must be over a certain threshold of attractiveness, in order to have a chance with a girl, when you first meet her. From this point onwards, as long as you pass the first filtering stage, your social skills become more important than the level of your personal attractiveness.

The real reason why a guy will be reading this post, is to figure out how to get laid or a girlfriend and I’d bet that most of you reading this are attractive enough for most women you interact with. The main reason why you don’t have a girlfriend is because your ability to make it happen with a girl is letting you down.

There is an Attractiveness Threshold For Men

A study has revealed there’s a minimum attractiveness threshold for men ”choose potential partners with a minimal level of attractiveness”. Now, that’s it, all you need to do is achieve a minimum threshold of attractiveness.

Girls under 29 years old took part in the study, plus their mothers. What they discovered was that the mothers minimum threshold for the attractiveness of their possible future son-in-law was lower than the daughters.

This is great news!

The minimum threshold for attractiveness is far lower than you may think. For most men out there, you will only have to do a minimum amount of tweaks to surpass this threshold. Here’s a post on how you can increase your mate value, where I go into more detail on steps you can take to get over this threshold.

A Man’s Height is Important to Women

• Height is mostly fixed

There are unlimited studies that point to the hard fact that height is important to women. Obviously there are some outliers, sure, some women will date guys who are shorter than themselves, but this is rare.

According to this study, women see a man’s height as ”Dominance, competitiveness, and masculinity could help a man fulfill his responsibilities in ancient times”.

This may have correlated directly to a man’s ability to provide for his wife, in ancient times. Even though height is not as important in recent years, girls are still hard wired to want a taller male partner.

Women believe that penis size is mostly correlated to a man’s height. This is another reason why girls prefer taller guys. This post is not about height, I’m just pointing out the validity of height.

When I first started coaching guys cold approach in the beginning of 2020, I had one student that want quite short 5’4 approximately.

This student insisted on approaching girls who were taller than himself, even when I suggested that it was simply making things more difficult for himself. Again, I’m not saying that it’s impossible, just more difficult. We ended up finding him a long term girlfriend who was approximately 5’2 in height, a few inches shorter.

Simply go for girls who are shorter than yourself, this is one problem that’s difficult to overcome.

Your Status Matters But She’s Not Stupid (DHV)

The famous pick up artist ”Mystery” first talked about the concept of a ”DHV” (display high value) many years ago. Since then, we have a few dating companies pushing the idea of displaying high value during these modern times. Good idea? Here’s my take on it.

Some guys have been indoctrinated with the idea of displaying high value but in my opinion, it’s stupid. Let me tell you a quick story about it. There’s one guy who I have bumped into multiple times.

He’s a nice guy, just delusional plus he’s indoctrinated. Every time I see him, he mentions this pickup company and how he’s working on dhving girls (DHV) or how important sub communicating high value is. He also tries to stare straight into my eyes, as if his some type of ”alpha” or something. To be honest, it’s just weird, but he’s nice enough, so I’m happy to humour the guy.

As we’ve already discussed above, height is important. This guy is several inches shorter than myself, plus it seems like he is not making much money, not to mention he’s poorly groomed, with terrible fashion.

Long story short, he can DHV and sub communicate to his little hearts content, but I’m only seeing a poorly groomed, unintelligent, low self aware fool who is in my opinion lower value for being indoctrinated by such stupid ideologies. He came across as delusional, as if he actually believed what he was saying was convincing me of how high-value he is.

I don’t beat around the bush, I’ll tell you the hard truth, straight up. I’ve noticed that men are easily fooled into these ”hacks” or ”quick fixes” but they just don’t exist.

Life is hard and most men don’t become high status, or it wouldn’t be called high status in the first place, because if every one was to be high status, then we would be called average status. Come on… Women are not stupid.

Be Solution Oriented – Growth Mindset

The reason why I decided to talk about this topic today is I came across an interesting video last night and I decided to respond to in on my Youtube channel. It was an Australian guy having a discussion with a British guy who identified as black pill. They discussed the importance of looks to men.

Good Looking Coaches Can’t Help You

The beginning of the video was great, as they both seemed to agree that you should not get cold approach coaching from a pick up coach that was of higher mate value than yourself.

If a pick up coach is far more attractive than yourself, then how would he be able to empathize with your current dating situation. . . Well he wouldn’t. It’s the first time I’ve heard such common sense in the dating industry, it was great to hear this discussed on a large dating channel too.

The black pill guy ”wheat waffles” (I’ll call him wheat from now on) came to the conclusion that looks are the most important tool a man has when attracting women. Wheat came to the conclusion that if a man was to become ”sub 5” as he put it, the man would have almost zero success with women. 10 being the most attractive and 1 being the least attractive. This was his diagnosis.

When the Australian guy pressed him on solutions, wheat could only pitch ways to improve a man’s ”looks”, e.g. plastic surgery, hair transplants etc.

This is such a simplistic way of looking at a complex problem, I’d argue that anyone faced with this problem, would come to the same simplistic solution, therefore the idea of diagnosing the issue of a man’s attractiveness, is futile, unless you have a whole range of solutions.

Without solutions, wheat is only going to cause nihilism amongst his followers.

The Solution is Cold Approach

Wheat, would most probably grade my looks as sub 5, which is a compliment for my cold approach methods and strategies. In fact I encourage guys to judge my attractiveness level, because it only reinforces how good my game must be.

As a 41 year old guy who is still having success with women, plus adding all my experience over the years, I’d argue that any man who wants to learn the sweet art of cold approach, should learn from myself. Click here to learn more

What Are Your Solutions For Men Who Struggle With Dating?

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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