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How Can a Man Cold Approach Girls Without Being Creepy? You saw her across the cafe, pretty and not talking to anyone, now you’re stuck there, just wondering how you approach her so you can start a conversation with her.

Learning how to deal with women is a process that every man has gone through.

Perhaps, with cold approach the first step in figuring out how to approach her is really that simple: you must figure out how to start the conversation within proximity enough to approach her and all without coming across like a creep.

Keep the conversation light hearted and be cool with ejecting whenever

Dave

Why Men Need Cold Approach Skills?

Most relationships with girls begin by approaching them and starting a conversation. It is still the primary way to build relationships of all kinds, whether personal, professional, friendly, or romantic.

You can find girls to chat online (low-quality girls), but when it comes to meeting a girl in person. You have no choice but to learn the sweet art of cold approach and how to deal with that girl’s objections etc.

Cold approach is an essential skill, even if you have succeeded in meeting many girls in other ways. Having the confidence when meeting a girl is an attractive trait that impresses girls and opens more possibilities for you in other areas of life.

It’s best to get to the steps now and talk about having the skill in your back pocket when you need it.

Turn the cold approach warm, by making solid eye contact beforehand. If possible

Dave

How Do I Cold Approach Girls Without Being Creepy?

Look at her (eye contact). Look at her from time to time, this will tell her that you’re trying to get her attention. Be sneaky and secretive lol or more like covert, and always look for the spot where she is as soon as you get her attention.

You’ll pique her curiosity once you make that vital eye contact, and it will force her to look at you, again and again, to see if you’re still looking in her direction.

Make Strong Eye contact

Keep looking at her, and occasionally, close your eyes for a split second and look away again. By doing this method, you are already building curiosity in her, this makes it easier to make the cold approach later.

But if she doesn’t reciprocate here, perhaps approaching her is not a good idea, experienced guys can tell the difference over time. Maybe it means that she is probably won’t be interested in you, maybe it doesn’t, advanced guys can tell, you may not be there yet.

The sweet art of cold approach should be fun, so enjoy yourself

Dave

Make Her Feel That You are Interested in Her from across the room

If you’re out with your friends, this should give you some social status, depending on how high value your friends maybe.

Take a look at her occasionally, but make it seem like you’re distracted and unable to focus on the conversation (don’t be too obvious) you’re having with your friends, as if she is the distraction.

By doing this subtley, you make her see that she is on your mind, (the goal is to simply make the cold approach warm later on, that’s all) and you are too distracted to focus on your friends. This is subtle flattery!

Smile During the Interaction

Make eye contact once or twice every minute and no more. When you’re feeling a little bit brave, give her a small smile from the corner of your lip for a second. Let her notice your smile.

Don’t give her a big smile although at this point a big malicious smile will scare any girl, and you will be the creepy guy.

Talk Like You Belong There, Don’t Be Shy

Now, all you must do is walk up to her and say something. Use these tips to get to her and start the right conversation:

Avail the Chance: Sometimes all you must do is wait for the girl to give you a chance to talk to her, sometimes she’ll leave her friends so you can squeeze in a quick approach.

If she is really interested/curious in or about you and wants to talk to you, she will do all of the work for you and create enough opportunities for you to talk to her. 

She can do this by walking into the ladies’ room alone, getting away from her friends under the guise of answering a phone call, or even by smiling at you with strong eye contact and leaving the area where her friends are.

It’s always, so much easier to talk to a girl when she is by herself but in a nightclub, you’ll need a good wingman. She might cut out distractions from her friends who will try ”cockblock you” or awkward moments because she already expects you to cold approach her.

Talk about few topics so that you have multiple opportunities to engage the girl you’ve approached. Try something funny, try something deep, and try something a little bit off topic from the situation you find yourself in.

She will interact with you and share some of her viewpoints about the things you talked about.

Ask Her Some Deep Questions

You have unlimited options but you can start the conversation by asking her some questions, this will let you go deeper into the topic, and help you find entirely new topics to work through.

Ask her about her day, about her recommendations for future events she might attend, or about her favorite band, show or hobbies etc. Just don’t overthink it.

Asking deep questions about her shows that you are interested in what you have to say, so just direct them towards the topics she seems interested in, and surely, she will engage more in the conversation with you.

Compliment: Questions are a great tool to simplify how to approach a girl, but they do have some limitations. So, try another way to cold approach her by complimenting her.

So, focus on a few low-key compliments like, how beautiful her outfit is, or go for a compliment about her tastes after she discusses her favorite shows. You can also compliment her for how interested she is once she starts talking.

The key here is to make a noticeable compliment without going beyond your place in your conversation. Make it clear but not too personal, avoid complimenting on her body.

Make a Comment About Your Surroundings: Don’t Focus on a few points in the conversation. Just fill in what you have already noticed about her and your surroundings. Ask her if she likes the café, or what she likes to eat. Comment on the show playing in the background or ask her to review the book you’re sitting next to. 

Ask For Her Phone Number

Once you’ve had a good introductory conversation, you need to decide that you want to build this relationship from there. If you like her, and she’s receptive, focus on keep talking by getting her number.
You need to have some courage, and just ask for her number directly. You can also offer a subtle excuse (like wanting to learn more about her skill or get some recommendations for TV shows).

Just pick a moment when it feels like this conversation is coming to a natural conclusion and ask for her number. Then good luck!

Suggest a Way to Meet Again

Now you have her number, suggest her some opportunities to meet for a date or have chat as soon as possible. I teach my clients ”logistics” but this is only available to my paying clients.

Organizing something in advance with her can be as simple as telling her that you will be sending a text message soon with a link to the event, video or whatever you discussed. Or simply be direct and ask her if she’d like to hang out at a concert or a movie with you soon.

End the Cold Approach on a High Note

Choose a good moment, and as good an excuse as possible, to end the conversation in a natural way. The key to this here is simply to choose the right moment to eject, please don’t stick in the conversation until it becomes boring, then eject, always leave on a high note, so she’ll be wanting more.

On the next break from the conversation, just tell her you have to go and mention that you’ll text her soon.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle
• How to get a younger girlfriend
• What is indirect game
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)

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