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Direct game is the act of a man showing his sexual intent immediately during the initial stages of a cold approach. By showing ”alpha” body language in a more sexual way, while verbally expressing his intentions in a way that matches his body language. This is designed to leave no ambiguity in the woman’s mind as to why he has cold approached her.

Direct game is a valuable skill to learn in the early stages of your self-improvement journey. I’d argue that direct game is a foundation skill that guys getting into learning the sweet art of cold approach should all begin with.

Direct game has gained strong support from certain parts of the pick up community (mostly Europeans) who have turned the method of direct game into more of an ideology which cannot be challenged. Some proponents of direct game would go as far as to say that a man who doesn’t go direct is ”hiding his d!ck”, this is simply hyperbole.

Another argument I’ve heard for direct game is that it’s honest for a man to show his intentions immediately as to why he has cold approached the girl in the first place. I personally wouldn’t choose either side on that one.

I will agree that direct game is a vital aspect of pickup. It’s a basic foundation that all beginners to cold approach pick up should learn. If written another blog post on direct game verses indirect game if you would like a more in depth analysis of the two.

”Hi, I saw you from over there (points at where he came from) and I had to come tell you how adorable you are”

Example of a direct game cold approach opener

Direct Game Filters Out ”Yes Girls” Fast

This is what you want isn’t it?, a method that will help you find the girls who want to sleep with you faster and more efficiently. Well, yes and no.

• No Girls
• Maybe Girls

Immediately! a girl who has been cold approached in a direct manner knows why he’s there and exactly what he wants. This forces her to make a decision on whether she will reciprocate his advances or not. This speeds up the decision process faster than usual too.

No girls don’t last long under these conditions (girls who are in a relationship already), they tell the direct gamer they are in a relationship or simply not interested straight away.

Maybe girls will either :

1. Reject the direct gamer immediately or
2. Give him some contact information because she wanted time to think about it

Direct game filters out these girls quickly, which many men argue is more efficient, but is it really? Sure it’s effective if you happen to cold approach yes girls all day, though there is a higher probability of you meeting no and maybe girls, I’d argue.

Direct Game – From the Opener to the Close

Let’s discuss something most of the inexperienced ”pickup coaches” don’t talk about. Starting with a direct game opener, then sliding back into a more passive, less direct gear. What am I talking about… A guy opens directly (shows his intentions) then shifts into a conversation to no-where. Some may call this ”direct-indirect” opening direct then having an indirect meat of the conversation.

Please don’t do this and let me explain why.

Firstly, it’s inconsistent, she initially feels like you’re the type of guy who is uncompromising and goes for what he wants in life unapologetically. Then by becoming passive, you are showing her that you are kinda fake, the direct façade that you began with was just acting and now that you are passive, she realises that this is your real personality showing through.

It makes you look weak in my opinion.

You lose all the ”alpha” points you gained by going direct in the first place, in fact you lose more than that, you end up with ”minus alpha points” just my opinion.

Cold approach pickup is somewhat like the boiling frog analogy. Indirect game is like this, it’s starts off invisible, covert and passive, then heats up rapidly. Once the water is boiling and you’ve killed the frog, you cannot go back to cold water and revive the frog. Hopefully you are following me here, once the frog is boiled, you either get to eat it or it rejects you.

The point at which you have showed direct game style intent, a decision must be made on her side, correct me in the comments below if you disagree, but at this point I don’t think there’s any going back, it will only make you look weak.

Direct Game – Instant Dates (idates)

From my observations of hundreds of guys who use Direct Game, I’ve noticed that once they start the conversation in a direct way, their cold approaches end in instant dates more often than other styles of game. This is related to the boiling frog analogy I pitched previously. Once you have started by showing strong intent, strong body language, strong eye contact, strong vocal tonality etc

It’s a little inconsistent to pull back and therefore most don’t, they push for the instant date then try to pull the girl home straight after the idate.

My Direct Game Hack that makes it Work

One hack I give guys who are certain that going direct is their preferred method, is throwing in a gear shift towards the middle of the conversation. Say something empathetic and pull back. As if you just realised how overbearing you had just become, as if you just came to your senses.

Say something like ”Sorry, I don’t know what came over me just then” pretending that your actions were purely spontaneous.

Then tell her that her presence was the reason and technically, she’s at fault for what just occurred. Say ”If you weren’t so hot, I wouldn’t have behaved like this”.

This gives you the opportunity to pull back and try connect with her on an emotional level, which in my opinion will make the interaction more solid when it gets to the text game phase.

Direct Game – Problems

• Pushing too hard – Making it too transactional
• Flaky numbers
• Forcing her to make a decision fast
• Not building an emotional connection

Flaky Numbers

Let’s just acknowledge the elephant in the room. Flaky numbers. The Direct game method causes the most amount of flaky numbers than any other style of game. As I briefly mentioned above, the main reason is direct game forces a girl to make a decision way too fast.

When she’s put in a high pressure situation and she’s attracted to you, she’ll be more likely willing to give you her number so that she can think about it and unfortunately she’ll end up changing her mind later on, because you didn’t try harder to connect with her on an emotional level.

How to Analyse Your Game

Direct Game – Mate Value Play Off

Direct game does work, it is by far the most effective method of game out there, but it will only work consistently for a small percentage of men out there.

I’m sure you guys are aware of The Pareto principle otherwise known as the 80/20 principle. This also relates to dating, how it works is : 80% of women will sleep with 20% of men. This is purely based off how attractive these men are, so therefore we can conclude that only the top 20% of attractive men will get to sleep with most of the women.

Direct game will mostly work consistently for these men who are in the top 20% when it comes to the (mate value) looks department. This does not mean that direct game won’t work for men who are less attractive, sure it will, the same way almost anything will work for most men when it comes to getting laid, but if a guy is looking for consistent results, then I’d argue that he should follow this basic rule.

Direct Game – Spam Approaching

This a common side affect of direct game, I’d argue from my experience, that most guys who use the direct game method are more likely going to end up doing more approaches.

Sometimes this evolves into spam approaching, well from my experience, most guys who go direct do end up spamming. Simply because direct gets the girl to make a decision fast, so the only next move is to make another approach.

When each cold approach is shortened, then there’s more time for making more approaches. In extreme cases, this can lead to blowing out entire locations, giving cold approach pickup a bad reputation and so on.

Conclusion

Direct game will work for men who are of higher mate vale than the girls they are approaching, as long as she’s single etc. Direct game is an efficient style of game plus it’s great for beginners. There are some down sides : for instance flaky numbers and a need to do more approaches than needed.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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