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Are you a pick-up hard case – How to overcome your results as a hard case newbie at cold approach pickup? Are you a hard case? Are you a self-diagnosed hard case? Do you think you’re struggling and have been in the community for a very long time, but haven’t seen the results that you would like to see or haven’t seen any results over a long period of time?

I personally don’t believe that anyone is truly beyond help, but they have to be committed to change. Here are some tips for overcoming or improving your results as a hard case:

There’s No Quick fix to poor cold approach pickup results – Daygame Sydney

If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance that you are a newbie to cold approach pickup. And I can tell you (as a mens dating coach) right now: if you’re a hard case, then you’re probably looking for some sort of magic pill. You’re looking for something simple, something quick, something that will “fix” your problem.

You know what? I’ve been there. And from my experience working with other hard cases like you, I can tell you that it usually doesn’t work out that way. If you are a hard case enough to be reading this article, then chances are good that the answer isn’t going to be simple or easy, it’s going to take time, effort, and dedication from YOU.

Sydney Daygamer Hardcase Newbie

And then it comes back around again: how much do YOU want it? How much do YOU want to improve yourself?

Are YOU willing to listen to criticism? Are YOU (as a newbie hard case) willing to put in the time and effort over the course of 6-12 months so that YOU can get the results or increase the results that YOU deserve?

Most of the time, people are busy. They work five days a week, or they have a business and are looking for something that isn’t too long, they’re looking for a quick weekend boot camp.

They think that’s going to improve them, so they ask me: “What’s your magical opener?” They think of this magical pickup line that will just make all the girls’ panties drop.

Sorry, I hate to tell you it doesn’t exist. The game is far more in-depth and complex. If you’re one of those hard cases and you’re looking for a quick fix, it doesn’t exist.

Repeating Bad Cold Approach Pickup Strategies – Sydney Daygame

One thing I’ve come to realize while in the pickup community is that it can be both good and bad.

I would argue that the pickup community is doing more harm than good, but I would also argue that the pickup community isn’t necessarily helping.

You’ve probably been in the pickup community for a very long time you think, “I need new pickup techniques.” But what you really need is a more wholesome and holistic analysis of who you are, where you’re at, and where you should be going.

And that’s why you’d need to do something else other than pickup to get to the point where you will be able to pick up girls, and that might sound counterintuitive.

A lot of hard cases that I’ve seen are really focused on the infield. They know how every coach in the world opens, they know how they run their game from Hello through to number close, and they can recite it all back to front. If you meet up with a hard case, they have no problem critiquing all of the pickup coaches in the world.

They know all the pickup coaches, who are good, who is best, and who is worst.

But I would argue that they don’t know anything and all of what they know is built on faulty advice from decades of bad pickup advice, just through pseudo-scientific personal experience and there is a faulty foundation of pickup dating advice.

The next generation of pickup coaches have on top of that built another layer of faulty advice and so on.

Hygiene and Fashion in Cold Approach PickUp – Sydney Daygame

Some hard cases have small problems with hygiene and fashion, so their teeth are all messed up and they are not brushing their teeth or looking after themselves.

Girls don’t want to kiss a guy with black marks on his teeth, and they don’t want to kiss a guy with plaque all over his teeth.

Hygiene is a big issue for some of the hard cases I’ve had; some of them have a crust on their skin, and when you go up close to them and say “Hey. Maybe you should get a nice jacket or a haircut instead of focusing on your skincare.”

They will see that as no constructive objective help for them.

They’ll see it as no, I know what I’m doing, I just need to focus on my lines, I like my lines, I got a new product that’s going to solve all my problems.

But you know those massive pimples on your face? You need to see a dermatologist.

They are more likely to spend money on the new pickup book or sample than on your pickup strategy. Trust me, that’s not going to help you when seeing the dermatologist about the spots on your face. Improving yourself as a man would definitely improve you as a man.

Fashion – Tips For Daygamers in Sydney

Now, as for your clothing, you know, your shirt might be creased at the bottom, or tailored long pants or they are baggy. Do you look at least somewhat presentable?

I would argue that a lot of hard cases out there wear clothing that makes them look terrible or just not the type of man that a woman wants to be with, not an attractive woman.

There are a lot of simple things that are obvious. In a hard case, there’s this idea that the new pickup book, new digital product, and hack for tinder product are all easy to create. But when they go to the boot camp their coach tells them to improve their personality, hit the gym more, and learn canned lines.

They say no, I just need to know your canned lines and how they work. 

These beginner daygamers are so down the rabbit hole of thinking that pickup solves, everything that they don’t realize that pickup also is meshed in with looking after yourself. So, if you look terrible, you let your hair go out of control, and don’t moisturize at your age, then you’re not going to have much luck with women.

So you should look after yourself if you turn up homeless and smell, and your teeth have black marks because you didn’t brush your teeth. Girls notice these things, even though they’re small. These are the kinds of things that hard cases just pass off as unimportant, and I’ve noticed that hard cases think they know everything. They don’t listen to anyone, and if they do listen to someone, they walk away thinking “what does that guy know?”

They pretend to listen but then don’t actually implement anything that anyone tells them, which is why they’re still a hard case. As far as I’m concerned, a hard case is someone who can overcome these things by diverting time to it.

Body Shape in Cold Approach PickUp – Sydney Daygame

Another important aspect is body shape. If you’re struggling with your weight, if you’re overweight and need to lose some weight, or if you’re too skinny and need to bulk up a bit, then you should be redirecting your time away from the pickup community so that you can focus on working out and eating right.

One thing about (beginners to daygame) that confuses me is when people say they’re busy, or they’re studying hard, or they have a career and are relatively intelligent. But then you find out they’re playing a lot of games, meeting up with friends several times a week.

 A lot of people are too thin. They should hit the gym a little more and then divert a few days of game sessions to a week, and then revert back to one day per week or night game session.

The other two sessions per week should be spent bulking up in the gym. This will also help with your mood.

If you are overweight hit the gym and try to lose weight, do a lot more radio swimming, trying to look at your diet and what you are eating.

If you are overweight, hit the gym and try to lose weight. If that’s not working, do a lot more cardio swimming and try to look at your diet and what you’re consuming.

Body shape is one of the many issues I see with a lot of hard cases out there: either they’re too skinny or they’re overweight.

 If you are overweight, your chances of dating a certain type of girl are lower.

You can be a great guy and have a lot of energy, but if you’re overweight, you’ll have a much harder time dating the type of woman you want.

Limits of Cold Approach Pick Up in Sydney – Daygame Tips

If you are not attractive enough, you just need to be at least as attractive as the what we think as the average level of attractive man, within a certain age range and also be in fashion. Then you will be in the sweet spot of success.

 But if you are too skinny or too overweight and think that I am going to get the thing to hack, I’m going to continue to game just as much as I do during the weekend. Eventually, it’s all going to work out.

You need to lose 5-10 kilograms or put on 5-10 kilograms of muscle in order to bulk up, and then your success rate with the game will increase exponentially. Just think about it: where are you right now? Are you struggling?

Well, the hard truth is, You need to spend six months to a year in the gym and decrease your time in-game by 60%. Then divert 60% of that game time to the gym.

Or perhaps divert some percentage of it to working on your hygiene, or your fashion sense, whatever it takes for you to feel like a whole person again.

Once you’ve spent six months to a year in the gym and increased the amount of time you spend on your personal life by 60%, then you can increase the amount of game time you’re doing because you’ll feel better about yourself.

Intermediate Purgatory – Daygame Sydney

The downward spiral of results is like you’re taking action, but it’s not the right kind of action. When people give you advice, you don’t take it, you think that you just need to keep pumping out approaches and recording sets.

You think that if you can just increase the amount of time spent meeting up with a wing, or go to higher flow areas with more girls and pump out more approaches per session, then everything will be fine.

But I would argue that you need to spend less time out there and more time fixing the other aspect of yourself. So take 100 of your game time and go.

While I would argue that you need to spend less time out there and more time fixing the other aspect of yourself.

 In my opinion, it’s kind of like you’re getting in the boxing ring. You think of yourself as one of the best boxers in the world because that’s how you think of yourself in your mind. But you haven’t spent any time in the gym, hitting the punching bag and building muscle memory, so you can tell exactly which muscles move when you throw a right hook (which is great.).

But then you get into the ring with a heavyweight champion who has been there before, someone who knows how to do this. And what happens?

Knockdown in the first round.

Use Daygame to Meet Girls in Sydney

You don’t have the body to do boxing. Your body needs to be on point or at least within a certain threshold.

There are many guys out there who look max and spend little time gaming. I would say that you should get yourself within that threshold and then focus on your game, and the results will come much more than you think.

 If you don’t know what you’re doing, you’ll end up in a downward spiral of anger, depression, and blaming other people for your results. And if you don’t have any results, you’ll become an expert in theory and critiquing coaches out there.

I would argue that a lot of the guys out there are getting results, they never talk about coaches, and they never talk about strategies or theories. They got their life in order, they are getting results, and all they need to do is take the right action.

I have seen newbies joining Daygame in Sydney over the years that when guys get into the community and get into their hard call, take it very seriously for six to 12 months. They are not looking for results, they are not looking for short-term gratification. They hit the gym, they focus on their business, and they get into their life. It’s a long-term investment but it’s worth it in the end.

By now (as a hardcase), you should have a pretty good idea of how to overcome your results and improve yourself with hard work.

If you haven’t tried any of the strategies we’ve suggested here, take a look at them again and see if they’re something that might work for you. If they are, give them a shot.

And if they aren’t, don’t worry. 

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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