The Best Way for Men to Get Laid – Cold Approaching Women. I hate to break it to you, but if you want to get laid, it’s not going to happen unless you go out and make it happen.

Cold approaching (i.e., talking to women that you do not know) can seem scary, intimidating, and downright terrifying to guys who are inexperienced with this kind of thing.

But the truth is, if you’ve never cold approached anyone before, it’s because YOU DIDN’T TRY! This article will give you some concrete tips on how to approach women in public when the opportunity presents itself so that you can get started today!

Before you start cold approach

It may sound easier to get a girl’s number and then ask her out on a date, but you could be missing out on some of the best experiences of your life. We tend to romanticize unplanned encounters, but there’s something thrilling about being in control of meeting a girl.

You’ll never regret having an amazing lay with a woman who you’ve planned to sleep with. The most important thing is to approach women with confidence. If you’re nervous about talking to girls, that’s okay! Remember that it gets easier over time as long as you keep approaching women consistently. 

Cold Approach Tips

Here are three steps for taking action:
Approach women at bars or clubs without any alcohol or drugs in your system (they will lower your inhibitions and make it harder for you to take action).

Make sure that she is not busy (e.g., she is not ordering drinks or talking on her phone).

Be direct by telling her Hey, I noticed you from across the room and wanted to come to introduce myself. Don’t worry if she doesn’t respond positively right away; just move on to another group of women after saying hello?

Vulnerability off the cold approach

Unless you’re a gym rat, chances are you don’t regularly approach attractive women. So, when it comes time to talk to someone new, your social skills might not be as strong as they once were.

But don’t let your anxiety be an excuse for inactivity! Remember that although being social isn’t exactly natural, it doesn’t have to be nerve-wracking either.

I recommend replacing negative self-talk with a more positive and realistic perspective. Realize that you are capable of having a conversation with anyone. You know how to communicate; you just need to remind yourself that there is no need to fear rejection. 

You will survive even if she says no or ignores you completely, it happens all the time. You aren’t going to die if she turns down your offer for a date or tells you she has a boyfriend.

Instead of fearing rejection, try thinking about rejection as something that can help make you stronger and improve your interactions with others. If nothing else, approaching people will help build up your confidence and give you practice at talking to people without making it seem like such a big deal.

Cold Approach

If you’re serious about finding a relationship, you’re going to have to put yourself out there and approach. The good news is that rejection is rarely as bad as it seems.

Most women who say no will do so in a nice way and others will be intrigued enough to want to hear more. Being upfront about your intentions saves time and puts both parties in control of whether or not they want to engage further in the best possible situation for everyone involved. 

Just don’t over-think things: If you’re nervous, just remember that all you need is courage (to take action), decisiveness (to get it done) and boldness (to take control). If a woman catches your eye, go over and introduce yourself, it can only go well from there.

Body Language & Eye Contact – Cold Approach

Body language and eye contact it’s so important. There are many factors that go into making a good first impression with someone. These include, but are not limited to, physical appearance, social skills, and proximity (being near). But by far one of the most important things you can do is make eye contact with people.

If you can meet someone’s gaze when they look at you, or look at them right as they are looking at you, you have done very well in connecting with them. The reason for this is because we are taught from an early age to feel nervous around someone who is making direct eye contact with us.

It also creates a sort of sparkle in your eyes. Something that shows you are engaged with them and interested in what they have to say. Making eye contact is often referred to as the gaze. The gaze is really very simple, it’s where you make consistent, meaningful eye contact with someone until they break away from it first or turn their head away from you to avoid making any more eye contact.

By doing so, you will give off a dominant, assertive vibe and allow yourself to be seen as someone who is confident in yourself. Meaning that if they were to approach you and try talking to you or ask for your number then there would be a good chance of them being able or willing to do so.

Not Just Looks

If a woman is beautiful and has a great body, but she walks around with an angry look on her face, most men will think twice about approaching her.

Sure, you can get away with being a total jerk to some people; if your mother hates you and you’re famous enough then it might even be in your favor.

However, for most of us regular guys, it’s not something we want to do. We need to present ourselves in such a way that women are at least willing to talk to us or else we are going to have an awfully hard time getting laid.

Be Creative

A good approach is having a game plan. At first you should have your plan written down and then you can improvise based on how she responds.

Always have a backup plan to, in case something goes wrong or she doesn’t respond to your game. If someone says they are having fun while pursuing women, they are either lying or are with one of those unicorn women who is perfect for them. Approach as many women as possible in order to develop an efficient style that works for you, but also respect their boundaries.

Once you get rejected multiple times it’s okay to take a break from approaching other women and reflect on why your last attempt didn’t work out so well, then return once you come up with new ideas.

Learning a lesson

You get what you put into it is cliché, but with dating especially pickup it couldn’t be more true. If you want to get good at picking up women, you need to start approaching a lot of women and getting shot down a lot. You may feel like shit after getting rejected, but hey, that’s how greatness is built.

The real secret is that getting rejected isn’t all that bad (much better than not trying anything at all). So don’t worry too much about your ego or feeling self-conscious. 

When you’re out, there will always be women you want to approach, but are too afraid to do so. My advice is to just do it anyway. Stop thinking about what could go wrong and just enjoy getting outside your comfort zone for a change. It doesn’t matter if you get rejected or not.

And if it feels like a big deal, that means you need to get out there more often. Don’t worry, pretty soon it won’t feel like such a big deal anymore and then it will become easier than ever before in your life to approach women and speak to them! I promise!

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle
• How to get a younger girlfriend
• What is indirect daygame
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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