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What does the girl you are seeing mean, when she says ”I need some space”. Usually she will pull out this ‘‘I need space’‘ card, straight after you and her have an argument or some form of minor disagreement. The argument is used as an excuse to call for some space or a break from you.
She will use this as a way to blame you for the requirement for ”space”, she’ll usually claim that your bad behavior is what’s pushing her away. The issue with most blue pill men (men who aren’t aware of the reality of female nature), the problem with most men is: they will believe this manipulation.
Unless you are having violent outbursts that are not justified in anyway, she has no reason to call for some space, your girlfriend or wife is just manipulating the situation for her own benefit. But, make sure that you are not one of those abusive boyfriends who is making her fearful, be honest with yourself.
If in fact you are not one of those men who women have a legitimate reason to avoid, if you are not violent or abusive in any way and you are being honest with yourself. Then she is manipulating you and I’m going to explain why she is doing this, to a high probability.
When a woman says she needs some space, she really means she wants a chance to look for a different guy. She wants you to wait for her (as a substitute partner if she cannot find a ”better man) while she goes out looking for another man in nightclubs and on dating apps. However, this is one sided, because she expects you to remain faithful to her during her ”taking some space” time.
Do She Make You Feel Insecure In The Relationship?
Does she make you feel insecure? Do you feel like every other guy around her, could steal her from you at any moment? If so, there’s only two things that can be happening here.
- You are insecure and jealous for no reason. Be honest with yourself. Are you a naturally insecure guy? Do you honestly have no solid case for feeling insecure around her? Think deeply here. A girl who has guys hitting on her in front of you or has many ”guy friends” who are clearly trying to sleep with her, is definitely creating this environment.
- You are jealous and insecure for very good reasons. She has cheated on you in the past, or you feel like she is already cheating on you now. Your gut or feeling is often right. And if she never truly addresses your feelings and makes a serious effort to make you feel secure again, she is 100% in the wrong. She has an obligation to make you feel secure, that’s what a relationship is about.
She has an obligation to make you feel secure, that’s what a relationship is about.
Dave – One Man’s Life Mission
Did She Manipulate You Into Arguing With Her?
A girl who is looking for an excuse to break-up or take some space away from their boyfriends or husbands will often look for a way to manipulate you into an argument. Quite often she will trap you in a situation where you’ll end up arguing for literally no reason.
Do you even know why you were arguing in the first place?
Does the subject of the argument matter to you that much?
If it feels like her behavior is triggering a bad feeling for you, yet you cannot fully express what she is doing, nor can you describe in detail what she is doing that is triggering you. Then you have a serious problem!
Women will use gaslighting strategies to trigger a negative response in men they want an argument with. This is often so subtle that is will be almost undetectable for the average man. This is why it’s so effective, she will have the ability to start the fight, while making you feel like it’s all your fault.
This is what manipulative women do. Welcome to the real world.
Let’s just say she is triggering the fight, while manipulating you into taking all the blame for the fight in the first place, then using all of this manipulation as an excuse to tell you ”she needs some space’‘. If this is what is happening to you, then I’m going to tell you exactly what is happening and what to do about it.
Do Girls Come Back After Needing Space?
The harsh truth why she tells you she needs space in the relationship is: she wants to secretly date other guys, maybe even sleep with multiple other guys, to see if she can replace you. This is the harsh truth of female nature. If she has no real reason to need space from you, then she is cheating.
”But my situation is different” I can hear you saying in your head.
Let me explain in more depth, if you think your situation is different. Whenever there is a problem in life, any problem. The ONLY way to solve a problem is by working through the problem. Make sense? You have to talk through a problem or work through the problem until it’s solved… right???
You don’t ”take a break and get some space” do you?
Imagine there’s a problem at work and you tell your boss that you need to take the week off, get some space and when you return, hopefully the problem is solved. Your boss will think you are insane, and rightfully so. NOTHING get’s fixed without doing the hard thing. Which is actually fixing it.
Also, here’s another perspective. People who run away from their problems are often immature or have serious issues right? Is your girl immature? Well, imagine your relationship gets serious. Maybe you marry this girl. This is when a girl who runs away for space is a legitimate threat to your life.
Imagine you invest everything into this girl, you have kids with her, then one day you have some serious problems. Then she tells you ”she needs some space”. Then you are left to solve whatever problems there are, while she disappears on holiday, while you are fixing whatever problems there are all by yourself.
What about divorce? Imagine getting serious with a girl who ”needs space” all the time. She is more likely to divorce you and take all of your money and kids in a divorce settlement, then a stable girl who stands her ground to solve problems with you.
Not to mention the fact that most girls who tell you they need space are sleeping with other guys. If a girl says she needs space from you, tell her there’s no space, only a breakup or she stays with you to solve the problem like an adult.
If a girl says she needs space from you, tell her there’s no space, only a breakup or she stays with you to solve the problem like an adult.
Dave – One Man’s life mission
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