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When you understand this concept, then you will understand women and the world around you in far more depth.

To start with, we need to make sure you understand what a shit test from a woman really is. A girl is never going to shit test a guy she actually hates, nor is she going to shit-test a guy she wants to reject or simply go away.

There is a huge difference between a girl who is challenging you, because she sees you as the type of guy she might sleep with and her insulting you, or telling you to leave her alone. Make sure you know the difference.

If a girl is clearly angry at you, plus asking you to leave her alone, then you should do so. This is not a shit test, this is a clear sign that she is rejecting you. Just walk away.

Sometimes women want to ”test” to see where your boundaries are. Some women (who want to sleep with you) want to see where your boundaries are and how harshly you enforce them. A man who has a good range of boundaries and can enforce them in a reasonable manner will make her feel safe in a romantic setting with you.

Women Don’t See The World As A Power Play Like Men

Whenever guys are new to actively meeting women, they forget one important thing; How do women see the world?

When a man is challenged by another man, in form of a ”shit test”, we see this as a threat to our status in society (because it is). This test can lower our value at work or in any social setting if we don’t deal with the shit test effectively while retaining our power in the social setting.

Men naturally see the world from a dominance hierarchy point of view (shout out to Jordan Peterson). Any ”test” or ”challenge” can lower our status, which in turn lowers our power. This has real-world effects on men. A man isn’t always born with genetic advantages that reward us with power and status. Men have to earn status and power.

Unless the man is the biggest guy in the room or is born into a wealthy family. But these are complex topics for another blog post.

Women see the world in a very different way. Keep in mind how a woman sees status: She (if she’s good-looking) is born with status, women are given status based on their age and how attractive she is. Women rarely engage in battles for status in any hierarchy. Most women don’t even know a hierarchy exists.

Here’s some evidence:

• Women as highly paid secretaries (with very little skill or knowledge). Yet they have high-paying jobs purely because they are born with status and value.
• Women with large social media accounts, who have gained it purely because of how beautiful they are. Yet, if you have a close look at what they are saying, it’s clear they don’t know their niche at all and are kind of incompetent.
• Women who are invited on TV shows, large social media shows etc for their ”opinion” when we all know they are only there because they are pretty. And, we all know these girls are not experts at all, they are in fact incompetent.
• Women who are invited to all of the best penthouse parties, and receive everything for free.

These are just a few examples of how women jump to the top of the hierarchy in society without earning it through competence and hard work. Pretty girls have access to the most successful men in society, purely because they were born with a genetic advantage.

How does a girl engage in a power play with you, when her life experience is vastly different than yours?

How would a girl understand power dynamics, when she is always slotted into the center of power, without earning it?

Women don’t play power games, women don’t earn power, and women are simply given access to men who possess it.

The answer is, she won’t know, and she doesn’t understand. So, therefore a ”shit-test” is not a power play.

Women rarely engage in battles for status in any hierarchy. Most women don’t even know a hierarchy exists.

dave – one mans life mission

Women Are Outside Of The Power Battles

She doesn’t need to push you down the dominance hierarchy, because in her mind, she just picks the man who has the power at any moment in time and gets close to him.

Let’s say that you are the lowest-ranking male she knows (in the dominance hierarchy) then she will probably just ignore you. Instead of giving you any time, she will most probably focus on the guy who has all the status and resources she wants.

Then, let’s say you work hard and battle your way to the top. You worked until you almost died from exhaustion, making money, building a network, and building muscles in the gym. You turn yourself into a monster, not only financially, but physically too. Very few women understand what sheer dedication that would take, almost none understand this.

Let’s just say you build your status up to a high level. Just above the last guy, she was focussing on. You are now at the pinnacle of what it means to be a man.

Then the woman only needs to focus on you now, and you’ll most probably allow her access to your life. Most men allow women access to the absolute pinnacle of society, without her earning it, she is the reward of earning power, she is outside of the battle for power.

Hell, even if she ignored most men in the past, and now the man is a success, he won’t hold a grudge, he’ll view it as if he’s finally earned her attention.

It’s as simple as that. Women don’t engage in the power plays we do, they just get close to the man who is winning or has already won. None of the women who hang out with high-ranked men understand the blood sweat and tears that man had to go through, just to be in his situation in life.

Now we have established how a woman sees the dominance hierarchy, do you think a woman has the ability to push a high status man down the hierarchy?

Nope

Therefore, a woman who ”shit-tests” you, is not trying to lower your value as a man. Because she doesn’t have the ability to do this, and she knows it. If she knows that her opinion cannot affect the hierarchy, why do you think a shit test is a challenge to your status in any way?

Because it isn’t. Women don’t choose a man’s status, women don’t have any impact on your status in society. In any case, why would she care?

She doesn’t care.

She only chooses the guy with the most status (if she is obsessed with status in the first place). Women can leave a man for another man at any moment in western society, she has the ability to monkey branch. If the grass is greener over there, she can monkey branch over there whenever she pleases.

This is partially why western society has such a high divorce rate. But that’s another blog for another day.

Conclusion: Her Shit Test is not a challenge to your status in any way.

She doesn’t need to push you down the dominance hierarchy, because in her mind, she just picks the man who has the power at any moment in time and gets close to him.

dave – one man’s life mission

Shit Tests Are Supposed To Be Fun – Tease Her

Women shit-test men they are attracted physically to. This is an opportunity for you to show your fun side to her. She wants you to tease her back in a humorous way. The goal here is not to take anything she says as an insult, instead see it as a game. She teases you, you try to one-up her, by teasing her back.

This is an opportunity for you to demonstrate your social awareness, by teasing within the boundaries of what is acceptable. Yes, this is immature, and yes grown adult women shit-test all the time. Don’t start to think you are above this, because your ego won’t help you pass this shit-test, in fact, the opposite.

Don’t allow your ego to ruin this chance for you.

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• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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