Questions To Ask Every Girl You Cold Approach. Are you working 80 hours a week, don’t have time for a girlfriend, are you just looking for one night stand with a girl with the possibility of, maybe making her a girlfriend, maybe making her a wife.

Are you at the point in your life where you decide it’s time to have kids and find a wife? So what you are trying to achieve, do you want to just go out and socialize with a lot of guys, or do just want to go out socialize meet some new people, and have some fun.

Having a good understanding of what to say and what you are trying to achieve is very important off the cold approach. It seems like it’s kind of common sense I totally understand you’re probably thinking this is common sense but how many go out and don’t really have any sort of a goal.

So understanding where you’re at and what you are trying to achieve is by far the most important thing.
There are so many ”simpish” desperate single guys that are like a leaf in the wind, the wind blows and they go with it and they think it’s fate or they watch too many Hollywood movies and they don’t really think that let’s just make it happens.

Let’s just be me and I will just see what happens, if it happens it happens but if you think like that and you don’t have a proper goal or anything that you’re trying to achieve, you are not in control so the goal is to have some sort of plan and then you have a little bit more control over your dating life.

Having a good understanding of what to say and what you are trying to achieve is very important off the cold approach

Dave

What’s Your Purpose For Approaching Her?

Now every guy has different goals. Some guys are looking for marriage, some guys are looking for long-term relationships, and some guys are just looking for sex but whatever your goal is, make sure that it’s clear in your mind before you start dating because that’s going to determine who you should be dating.
For example, if your goal is marriage, then obviously someone who wants marriage is going to be different from someone who wants casual sex.
So once we know what we want out of our dating life then we need to start making decisions based on those goals. So here are some important things you differently should ask when you’re going out.

Screen for craziness and neuroticism 

I definitely start with this first one it’s not really a question, it’s more about testing and screening for neuroticism.

It is important, let’s just assume that you are the most high-value man in the club or in the daytime, you could meet her anywhere, you meet a girl you think she’s attractive and you want to get to know her.

I think screening for craziness, screening for neuroticism is very important. I am not an intelligent guy but what I will often do. When I meet a girl that if find attractive and I want to test her. Teasing a little bit, poke around, and see how she deals with it.

Test her, and if she’s flighty or a bit childish, poke around and see what you can find.

If she shows a bit of aggression straight away a little bit of neuroticism, she tells you something that just is a bit scary like she has some issue at home, and she tells you some drama that she found herself.

If it’s something like that then there is no chance to go further with this girl because she is just crazy or there is something wrong with her personality or something like that. If she’s not acting crazy or doing any of those things then it’s a good sign.

So yes I think screening for craziness is very important as well as intelligence level.”

Small Talk Off The Cold Approach

Then, I like to go for small talk, it’s important to have a small talk when meeting girls because it gives you an idea of how well adjusted she is and where she is in her life, how her mind reacts, and what she’s up to tonight.

The general type of small chit-chat question helps you get an idea of what type of girl she is and where her mind is at so if she starts leading it down a certain path that you don’t find very appealing then it’s time to next her as well.

if she passes the Neurotic Crazy Test. and starts talking about having fun together or nightstand or starts talking about having babies, it’s probably the reason she starts talking about you not a random guy in the club. It gives a sign that she is the next and you can move on.

How long she will be there?

The third thing to do when you meet a girl is to get an idea of how long she will be here, and when she is leaving. Maybe she is leaving and flying out to South America in a couple of hours. Or maybe she is staying for a while.

If you are looking for a girlfriend, this short time may work but if you looking for a wife, you can not get an idea about her in a few hours.

It is important to know how long she will be here and when she is leaving.

If the girl is interested, she will hint, she may say she is free tonight. The carrot will be dangling for you to take it, it’s your job to find out how your lives mesh and whether you guys are compatible.

If the girl knows that you’re interested in her then she’ll make sure that she doesn’t lead you on by flirting with other guys but if there is no interest then she will stop talking to you altogether or make excuses why they can’t meet up again so don’t waste your time chasing girls who aren’t interested because it won’t get them closer to becoming yours.

Logistics Is Everything in Cold Approach

For example, If you’re already working 40 to 60 hours a week and don’t have much time for a relationship, it won’t work if she’s working at a restaurant on weekends and has no time for you during the week.

Here’s an entire blog on Logistics
It’s important to make sure that both of your schedules allow for some time off together so that you can get to know each other better.

If one of you has a busy schedule and the other doesn’t, it’s going to be really hard for them to make time for each other. Make sure that you’re both on the same page about what kind of life you want to build together before getting serious with someone
So here’s the thing: you want to meet someone, but you can’t just go out, have fun, and expect it to happen.

That’s not how it works.

You have to know what you want and be honest with yourself about what you’re trying to achieve.

If you’re looking for a hookup, that’s fine. Just don’t go home at the end of the night feeling like nothing happened because you weren’t honest with yourself about what you wanted in the first place.
If you’re looking for something more serious, then make sure that when you go out and socialize with people, you’re looking for those things, not just “singles” events or “potential partners” events.

Make sure that when you’re going out with friends and co-workers to bars or clubs or parties or whatever, they’re places where there are people who want what YOU want: a relationship with someone who meets all those requirements.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle
• What is indirect daygame
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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