Today I want to talk about mate value and more particularly my personal mate value over time, where I’m at right now, and where I was in the past. I’m going to show you some really old Polaroid of myself when I was a lot younger, I’m going to tell you.

Well, obviously there’s a difference between I call it mate value, some other guys call it SMB “sexual marketplace value”. The proper scientific term is mate value. I just want to make that clear.

I’m not sure where a lot of the other guys in the community got SMV from, but the proper term is mate value, and I want to be the first person to bring it to your attention. I think I am actually the first person to say mate value.

So where was my mate value when I was younger? I think I was 20 at that stage and a friend of mine wanted to do some modeling. I don’t know why he wanted to do some modeling. We went to a model agent, I guess you call them.

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We walked in there and the model agent, I just went along with my friend because he was really keen to do it. And the model agent said, oh, I can’t really do too much with you to my friend, and then pointed to me and said, but I can do something with you.

So at that point, obviously, I realized that I was a little bit more attractive than the average guy. I don’t know what my objective mate value was at that stage, but I can give you guys a little bit of the stats as to how I was going with the ladies back then, and it might blow your mind, obviously.

I don’t look like a ten out of ten knockouts. There are a lot of guys these days on Instagram that looks far more attractive than I did back then, but I did quite well and a lot of girls did look at me back then and I was aware of women always looking at me and giving me favorable looks and treating me well because of my appearance.

There were girls after me going out partying that would go out drinking and then they would go to my front doorstep and sleep in the front yard and wait for me to get back. So I don’t know 02:00 A.m.

In the morning so they could all come in and have a drink. In my room so there were a lot of girls around before my 22nd birthday, so I was 21 and a half, I had slept with about 50 girls before my 22nd birthday, Obviously, it’s hard to tell. I think the vast majority were from a cold approach back then, Tinder didn’t exist.

The internet didn’t exist these are Polaroids I’m showing you this is over 20 years ago. Maybe social circles to some extent nightclubs, etc.

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Sometimes if you meet one girl and she enjoys spending time with you, if you know what I mean, she will refer you off to her friends and that was very common back then and still today, of course, but these days things have changed.

A lot of the girls that I was dating back then were surfer chicks on the beach that were in bikinis all the time and fit and very attractive.

If I was to rewind time and bring technology with me and have an Instagram and things like that, the number of beautiful girls that I was hanging around with back then, I would have a massive audience and if I was to become a coach I would probably have and huge audience with hundreds of thousands, if not millions of followers.

And millions might be a little bit of exaggeration but I would have a large following of people just because of my success. So this differentiates me.

Almost every other coach out there in the world because the vast majority of coaches out there in the world were super nerds in high school. And they give you this evolution, transformation story that I was a nerd, blah, blah, blah.

But I see it the opposite way. I was getting success early on. Matt Cross, by the way, Matt Cross had success early on as well.

You’re getting success and you continue with that success as you get older. This is experience. People downplay experience a lot, which I think is a form of fake marketing. The transformation story, I don’t think is very relevant.

I think proper experience and having success throughout your whole life and as your mate value declines as you get older.

You see, I became disabled at 28. You guys can read it in the book. I became disabled. Both my hips are all steel. I’ve got a bit of a dad bod, and I struggle to keep myself fit at the moment.

So my mate’s values dropped from having a lot of success. My mate value continued to decline. My game needed to increase.

Dating Coaches in Their 20’s Are To Inexperienced

Now, if you’re having success between 18 to 25 already right now, from swiping right on Tinder or using Instagram, etc, imagine what someone with my experience could teach you with all my years’ experience. If you were to go back in time and speak to 25-year-old me asking for dating advice, I wouldn’t know Jack shit.

I wouldn’t be able to help you because my results were based on my looks. You have an understanding as to what’s going on there. I went swimming in a pool one day, and this girl was just staring at me.

She’s in a bikini, and you can only imagine how good it was in a bikini. She’s a very attractive girl. And I just walked over to her because she kept staring at me. And I said, hey, how are you going? Just real boring, I guess.

Day game approach, choosing signals. She had a look at me, and within about 20 seconds she said, let’s go for a drink.

There was no shit test. There was no nothing. It was just I felt like half of the pretty boy coaches out there, when I look at their infields, that’s what I remember and how easy it was.

It’s funny how a lot of these pretty boy coaches out there, they’re like, okay, this is how I run my game. It’s like, no, your results are coming because you’re a pretty boy and you have no game.

It’s just this fake marketing bullshit. And your clients are getting screwed because someone like me, with all of my experience, I got a Ph.D. in this type of stuff. If I go back, the younger me would have no idea how to coach you guys.

I would not have the experience that I’ve got today and I wouldn’t be able to help you guys. So this is a girl that was literally within a couple of hours of meeting me doing this.

Another story I got to tell you guys is sometimes because of the abuse that I was suffering at home, I would smoke marijuana to self-medicate.

I remember going to a party at this particular time I turned up to the stone and I went I grabbed a packet of chips and I sat in the corner and this beautiful blonde American girl comes over and sits next to me and goes, hey, you look lonely over here.

She didn’t care that I was lonely. She came over to talk to me because I was attractive.

I ended up sleeping with that girl and this is just a reoccurring story through my early twenty s that a lot of my results were just by being in the vicinity of good looking girls but if I was to go back in time and see the old me and teach him proper cold approach at 18 to 21, these girls were beautiful.

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Don’t get me wrong the girls that I was seeing back then were stunners and the girls waiting out the front of my place for me to come home drinking or whatever.

If I was to go back and teach him proper cold approach, Gee. I would be approaching the Tens, the supermodel Tens. I would be going over there running some proper game with them and taking young me under my wing.

And I’ll be like, Come on, let’s go to find Victoria’s Secret models and try that. And you think that might be a little bit delusional.

But if I was having that much success back then, imagine how much success I would have with a proper cold approach. And this is something that a lot of men don’t understand.

If you’re getting success on Tinder. Tinder is a meat market for women to get the best men that they can. And very few men get women above their mate value. Men very rarely get more attractive women on online dating.

It’s very rare. It does happen, but it’s very rare. Don’t get me wrong, it does happen, but it’s very rare. But cold approach.

The Sweet Art of Cold Approach If you’re getting a lot of matches on Tinder or Bumble or any of these dating apps, if you learn the cold approach, you should be able to access the absolute pinnacle of most beautiful women ever.

Obviously, it’s a bit of a problem with a lot of men is if they get success, they get into their comfort zone, and if they’re happy to take a seven or a six or whatever. And it makes them feel good and content. But it depends on what type of man you are.

Are you the type of single guy who wants to push the limits of what you can achieve? Or are you the type of man who just wants to punch down and tell your buddies, look, got another notch on the belt this weekend.

What type of guy are you? but yeah, you’re going to have to work hard and make that decision for yourself. But that’s young me. And as I’ve got older, my game has had to slowly increase over time just so that I can compete.

I just wanted to show you guys a little bit of a history of myself and where I’ve come from and differentiate myself from the vast majority of coaches out there and explain that experience does matter.

Young Men Can Learn For An Experienced Coach Like Me

And just because I’m a little bit older doesn’t mean I can’t coach an 18-year-old or a 21-year-old that wants to get out there and learn some cold approach. Because I remember what it was like to be 21 and I have the experience and the ability to get the most out of them these days. And also I’d like to throw in there.

By the time I was 28, Overnight I became disabled. It was like one day I woke up and I had a sore hip and at that moment, my entire life changed.

And so if you’re 25 years old or something like that and you’re thinking that you’re young and you have a lot of time, you might wake up the next morning and your entire life is just flipped on its head and that’s what happened to me at 28.

It’s not that uncommon that things go wrong in life. So many people get ill, they get sick, they get cancer, they have some sort of illnesses, etc.

So if you’re a young man, don’t think that you’re invincible and things are going to go on forever because they’re not going to go on forever and they might end a lot faster than you think, like me.

I know another guy who got cancer in his late 20s as well and that disrupted his life as well make the most of what you can right now and make sure that you go to some good coaches that can get the best out of you. So first thing, mate value not SMV two cold approach is far better for getting girls above your mate value.

A cold approach is better than online dating. And when I was younger, I was getting a lot of success.

My Instagram would go off and I would have a huge audience based on my looks and my bad game. But now I’ve got a really good game because as my looks decreased, my game had to increase and that’s something that people need to take into account.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle
• What is indirect daygame
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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