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Is Getting Laid a Numbers Game For Men? The numbers game is all about increasing your chances of success by, well, increasing your numbers.
It’s a statistical fact that the more people you meet, the more likely you are to find someone you’re compatible with. And when it comes to sex, compatibility is key.
So if you’re looking to increase your chances of getting laid, you need to be talking to as many people as possible. Go out to bars and clubs, join online dating sites, and just generally put yourself out there.
The more girls you approach and you meet, the better your odds will be. Simple
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you’re guaranteed to get laid if you meet a lot of people.
There’s still a lot of luck involved. But the numbers game does give you a better chance than if you just sat at home and hoped that the perfect partner would magically appear.
Is Dating a numbers game for men?
So, how about you go out there and start meeting as many girls as possible. The more, the merrier. And who knows? Maybe you’ll find the love of your life.
In order to get laid, you have to put yourself out there and be okay with getting rejected. It’s just like sales. You make a bunch of calls, most of them don’t go anywhere, but eventually, you’ll make a sale.
PUA guys who claim they get laid all the time without ever getting rejected are full of shit.
They say that if you’re getting rejected, it’s because your game is off and that any guy can get any girl if he has the right game. But in my opinion, that’s just not possible.
Don’t be afraid to miss out on the right girl because you’re busy obsessing over girls who are just not right for you.
There are a lot of reasons that women might not be interested in dating you, and it’s important to remember that most of these have nothing to do with you, well kinda.
The point is, you should never take rejection personally You should never try to force yourself on a woman who is uninterested.
Is Getting Laid a Numbers Game For Men?
That being said about the numbers, don’t get too hung up on any one girl who gives you the brush-off. There are plenty of fish (single girls) in the sea and not all of them have boyfriends.
Let’s get straight to it: if you’re getting rejected 95% of the time, that’s GOOD. No, seriously. It’s good. It means you’re approaching so many girls that you’re bound to find a few who’ll say yes.
Even if only 3% of them say yes, that’s still 3 times more than if you hadn’t approached any of them at all.
But I know what you’re thinking: “Yeah, but I’m not just not getting a phone number 95% of the time, I’m getting totally ignored.” That’s understandable.
It can feel humiliating and embarrassing to be completely ignored by someone. But it’s important to remember that when you approach a girl during the day, she doesn’t know anything about you, she doesn’t who you are or what you want from her.
All she knows is that some random guy is talking to her. And sometimes people don’t want to talk to strangers. That’s totally okay and nothing personal against you.
It doesn’t mean they think that you’re ugly or stupid or annoying, they just don’t know you well enough yet to form an opinion about whether or not they like you.
So what do men do with this information? You approach 100 girls and only get rejected 95 times? That sounds like a win to me. So, If you had a 2% success rate with cold approaching girls during the day. Out of 100, and you only slept with 2 of them.
And that’s the harsh truth. That’s a pretty typical success rate, from what I’ve seen. If you don’t believe the stats, go ahead and try it yourself. See how many girls you can sleep with out of 100.
Pickup Coaches Lie About their stats
So you’ve probably heard of the infamous pickup artist and self-proclaimed “ladies man,” ……
While he might be a little more crass than we are, we can’t deny his results: his data shows that he sleeps with 11% of the women he gets phone numbers from. We were skeptical at first, so we wanted to see if we could replicate those results with our own methods.
And what do you know? We got similar numbers (as I explained above in my experiment)
Granted, out of 100 phone numbers, there were three girls who were receptive to us and would have met up on a date…but after talking to them and getting to know them better, we realized we weren’t that attracted to them.
So who knows? Maybe if we pursued those girls, we would have slept with 3% of them…but we don’t think so.
I’m willing to bet that you’ll end up sleeping with 0-5 girls, tops. And that’s with approaching girls that you’re actually attracted to. Can you imagine how abysmal your success rate would be if you were approaching 5/10s and below?
The truth is, success rates for day games are pretty low. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. Just be prepared for a tonne of rejection from girls and know that it’s all part of the process.
Tinder Is Best Used ONLY Under Certain Circumstances
Every girl in theory, on Tinder is single and looking. Every match you get is a single, looking, and interested in you. You would think that would be enough for her to catch up with you but nope, that’s only the beginning.
I’ve been gathering stats on this for a while now, and it’s consistently true: of all of the attractive girls I match with, I’ll only wind up meeting up with 10% of them on a date.
That means that 90% of the time, I’m either getting stood up or getting blown off by someone who says they’re single and interested in me.
So, Tinder is a numbers game. The more matches you have (obviously), the more likely you are to find someone you’re interested in and vicer verser.
But just because you match with someone, doesn’t mean they’re interested in you. You have to put in the work to make sure you stand out from the rest.
So I’ve matched with 100 girls that I find attractive. I’m able to get 10 of them to come out with me. And out of those 10, 5 of them end up in bed.
And it’s pretty obvious why this happens: Girls online are getting hit on all the time, so they’re much pickier than guys.
Of course, I’m still experimenting, so we’ll see how this plays out. But the result looks something like this:
Day Game is Better Than Night Game
The night game will have you working hard for very little results. It’s just not worth it to approach at night, because the atmosphere is so loud and chaotic, it’s difficult to even hear what anyone is saying.
It’s also dark which makes it hard to see who you’re approaching, and people are drunk which makes it more difficult to communicate with them.
The only advantage to night games is that it is easier to get through the approaching anxiety barriers because you are surrounded by drunk people and loud music. Other than that, it’s a massive waste of time.
For some, the answer is yes. The more women you cold approach, the more likely you are to find one who is willing to have sex with you.
There are a unlimited amounts of variables that go into whether or not a man will find a woman attractive enough to want to have sex with her, but ultimately, it comes down to numbers.
There’s no doubt that some men approach dating with the sole goal of getting laid. But is it really a numbers game? The answer is complicated.
While some men may find success by sleeping with a lot of women, others may find that their efforts are fruitless. It really depends on the individual man and his approach to dating.
Some men may be more successful if they focus on quality over quantity. Instead of sleeping with as many women as possible, they may have more success if they focus on finding a smaller number of women who are truly compatible with them.
Ultimately, there’s no right or wrong answer when it comes to whether or not getting laid is a numbers game. It really depends on the man and what he’s hoping to achieve.
Here are some of my best posts:
- Cold approach is a lifestyle
- How to get a younger girlfriend
- What is indirect daygame
- How to spot a fake dating coach
- How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
- Why Thiland is NO longer good for getting laid
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