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Take it slow, make sure everyone is comfortable. The mindset we are looking for here is, to always be looking for signs that she wants us to move forward with more escalation.

This means that we will be doing slight moves, then figuring out what her reaction is to said move, then adjusting to it over time.

Throughout this ultimate guide to ”How to Escalate a Conversation with a Girl” please remember to take it very slowly, you never want to push a girl too hard, and fast.

You have plenty of time to slowly escalate the tension with her, we don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable in any way.

• When she opens up to you slightly, move on to the next daring move. Then as she opens up more, you can make more daring moves.
• If she rejects your advances, that’s okay, it just means that she is not ready yet, you can always try again later.
• Sometimes a girl is too nervious to let you know either way, how she feels. This is when you need to not only be in touch with yourself, but also very much in tune with her. 
• If she freezes up, that’s a good sign that she is uncomfortable, at that moment, you should slwo down, step back and give her some space.
• Depending on the girl, you should be constantly asking if she is okay, verbally checking to see if she’s okay with the momentum of escalation that is happening, is a great way to keep yourself out of trouble, and make sure that she comes back for more. If she’s comfortable, everything will work out just fine. 

How To Verbally Escalate a Conversation With Women

Before you think about what exact words to memorize her, remember that it’s not always what you say, it’s the way in which you say something that can make all the momentum towards escalation work for you.

• Eye Contact – Eye contact is key here, having strong eye contact will propell you towards serious success with women. The negatives can in fact out weight the positives though. If you have difficulty making and keeping eye contact, you will project to her insecurity, which is a huge turn off to women. Make sure that you have a strong, never flinching eye contact, try to make her look away, hold a strong masculine frame at all times. Eye contact is one of those keys.
• Voice projection – Some people say that a strong deep voice makes a man sound more trust worthy, I read a few scientific papers on this topic and they made this point quite often. Unfortunately, sometimes men have high pitched voices by default. Mike Tyson has a high pitched voice, I, myself have one too, this is sometimes something you cannot do anything about. One trick would be to talk slower, it will slightly deepen your voice and make you come across more centered as a man.

Now, what can you try next time you are on a date or simply hanging out with a girl you are attracted to.

• The reverse escalation – You can accuse her of trying to escalate on you (even if she is not), this will usually get a reaction from her straight away. You can try this many times when with a girl, keep telling her to slow down and chill, tell her that you like her and everything, but she’s moving too fast. This fake out, will make it easier for you to escalate on her later on.
• The ‘I’m not going to sleep with you” line – This is a line that women use on men all the time, it’s something they will often say during the date, just to set the scene that she’s a good girl. You can use this in reverse, as long as you use it first, it should work quite nicely. Just out of no where say, ”look, I like you and all, but I’m not going to sleep with you tonight” keep a straight face, look her straight in the eye. Try it, I bet that taking her home later that night will be slightly easier, just because she has it in the back of her mind. At least, you’ll make her think about it.

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Take physical escalation slowly, one step at a time, always asking if she’s okay at every step.

How To Physically Escalate With Women

• Be direct with your intentions – Let her know immediately why you are there, which is to meet her, and possibly date her. I’d say you should go for the hug as soon as you first meet for the date, possibly even go for the kiss on the cheek. You can always pass this off as a European thing, and that you have traveled to Europe many times, this is where you got this cultural thing from. 
• Hold her hand – Always go for the hand, if she allows you to hold her hand, that is a great sign that she is open to you escalating more later on. It’s also a great way to get close to her when waking between venues etc (from the car to the cafe, from the bar to the taxi etc)
• Comment on her accessories:  For instance, ”oh, where did you get this necklace from?” then go in to touch her jewelry. If she allows you to touch her necklace or rings, this is another great sign that she wants you to move things further. 
• Slight touches during jokes – Try this, make a joke and then touch her knee in that moment. Make this as natural as you can, then watch her reaction to you touching her knee, see if she laughs and moves closer to you, or pulls away. This will help you figure out where you stand.
• Touching her lower back – This is gold for checking to see if she is koay with you physically escalating on her. Just say you are about to cross the road together and a car is coming too close to her, or you are walking down the footpath and a bike rider is about to hit her. This will give you plausible deniability to touch her, you are only trying to keep her safe right? haha These are all good excuses to put your hand on her lower back and guide her out of trouble, because you are a gentleman of course. For some reason, in my experience, touching a girls lower back seems to be quite a personal or sensitive spot. You should get a reaction from her either way, and it might be a slight movement towards or away from you. If you pay close attention, you should have enough information.
• Adjusting her clothes or picking a bit of fluff off her – Let’s just say that a leaf fell on her, this is a great opportunity to pick that leaf off her clothes. When you do so, be observant to how she reacts to you picking it off her. If she is perfectly comfortable, then that’s a great sign that things are going well for you.