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As one of the world’s most experienced cold approach experts (my first cold approach pick-up was in 1998) I’m going to give my thoughts on how you can master cold approach pickup too.

Drop the ego: Obviously, you need to do coaching and obviously, that coaching needs to be with me (not being arrogant, it’s a fact). Every man on planet Earth gets laid, the vast majority reproduce or we wouldn’t exist. So, if every man can get laid without any skills, the threshold for becoming a master at cold approach pick-up must be way higher than that.

Don’t think, if you are getting laid now on a regular basis, you know what you are talking about, most men are simply surviving in the dating scene, not thriving. Some men are getting good results with women, however, I promise that if you are getting results now on your own, coaching can take you to levels that you can’t imagine.

Almost every man on planet Earth gets laid, we wouldn’t exist, this is normal. Having solid game means that you are rising above the masses.

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How To Know If You Are Good At Cold Approach PickUp?

I can discuss this topic all day, but the main definition of having solid game is dating up, not dating down. Before you can figure out whether you are dating up or down, you need to figure out exactly where you lie in the sexual dating market. Only then can you figure out if the girls you are dating are above or below you.

Most men date down. Facts

The definition of solid cold approach pick-up is dating up. Not dating down

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How Long Should a Daygame Cold Approach Last?

This is the eternal question that has not been answered. If another coach tells you that long interactions help you build more rapport and therefore reduce the amount of flakes, this is evidence that your pick-up coach has not put in the time and effort to master cold approach.

The truth is, I’ve witnessed personally and by coaching students, copious amounts of time a super short approach end up in a solid date/lay and I’ve also seen super long interactions work. I’ve seen them all fail too in equal amounts. So, I’ve come to the conclusion that the length of time you stay in any interaction just doesn’t matter.

It’s the quality of cold approach, not the quantity and length.

No one reads a book on rugby union then jumps into a game and becomes MVP immediately. So, don’t think being a theory junky will help you with cold approach pick-up, it wont.

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Cold Approach Pick-Up

Have you (as a single man) ever wondered what it’s like to approach a girl?

Maybe you’ve done it before, maybe you haven’t, but either way, I’m sure you’ve heard some pretty mixed reviews.

Some people say it’s scary and nerve-wracking, while others claim it’s one of the most exhilarating experiences they’ve ever had.

Well, today us men are going to talk about how to get started with a day game if you’re just starting out.

Today (us single men), we are going to be talking about (daygame) a very basic beginning concept: guys who haven’t actually gone out and done their first-ever cold approach.

Maybe they’ve approached girls incidentally at college or when they’re at the bar or whatever it may be.

Maybe they swipe for you girls on social media dating apps like Bumble or whatever, but they haven’t really taken the plunge into the day game.

Advanced mentors will get you hooked on cold approach pick-up, they will change your life.

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Your First Time Cold Approaching Girls

I’ve had a few questions recently from guys who say they’ve never done it before, and it really resonates for me because you know I how they feel, from watching my students when they first start with me.

You may have heard a guy on YouTube doing a cold approach, stopping a girl during the day and getting a good reaction, getting her phone number, and it blew your mind. You start thinking: “I’m missing out here.”

But what you need to do is this: I remember a guy telling me that he’s going out on Sunday and setting himself a time in the calendar for midday.

He went out with himself, he wanted girlfriends. It had been a dry spell and it was time to get back into the game.

He couldn’t leave his house, he was sitting there like a quivering little fat girl, microwaving dodgy take out food and staring at the TV going “What’s wrong with me?”

Well, that first cold approach seemed like a world away, but now that it’s over I understand what it felt like to be so scared you couldn’t even get out of the house. It feels like a huge weight off every newbies shoulders, when they complete that first cold approach.
So if you’ve been thinking (and not taking action) about going out and doing your first cold approach, here are some tips to help make sure it goes well.

Most Girls Will Reject You At First Sight

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How To Cold Approach Girls in Australia?

Set you goals: To get started on your first cold approach, you need to have a goal in place.

Maybe it’s just to go on a couple of dates, or maybe you want to get a girlfriend, whatever it is, just have that goal in the back of your brain and force yourself out the door.

Even if it comes to a stage where you roll up to a busy area where you’ve decided you’re going to do some cold approaches and then sit in a cafe alone scanning for girls and watch the world go by thinking about the fact that you could be cold approaching and taking action.

Beginner Daygame (Cold Approach and Compliment her)

Next would be to go out of the house and get into a busy area, then focus on just going up to the girl and just saying, “Hey.

Coming from a genuine point of view as in approach girls that you genuinely find attractive, go up to them and just say, ‘Hey. I’m in a bit of a rush, but I had to say you looked really hot’ or ‘You looked hot.'” Make the girl’s day.

Yeah do it from the nature of giving value rather than sucking value and inherently or by doing this you’re gonna feel less nervous, you’re still gonna feel a bit overwhelmed at first, but don’t worry about getting phone numbers or even developing the conversation for them, just focus on giving value. What could be simpler?

In my opinion, one or two hundred times a guy either says a compliment or cold-approaches a woman, I would say that they should have complete outcome independence. .

They shouldn’t worry at all about the result.

It’s more about themselves getting comfortable with I’m programming behaviors that have been in place for often a number of years where they think it’s not acceptable to basically be don’t go and direct and express their real intent during the daytime.

Guys with the least amount of ego holding them back, always end up with the most improvement in their cold approach

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Transition the interaction into a Pickup

The next step is once you’re comfortable with just paying a couple of compliments, try and take the conversation that little bit further.

So hey, I know this about not the dumb thing, but I’d say you looked hot. What I notice about you is what you notice about them as I’ve touched on in the beginner day game playlist series which you should watch if you’re just starting the day game.

An easy thing to riff on is nationality, but if you’re in a small town, you can riff on the speed of the walk instead. For example, if she’s charging through, you could talk about how she was on a mission to save the world.

If she’s slow and orderly, you can talk about how far too stoned for her own good she is, it’s about having fun with it. You’ll find conversations flow quite easily sober.

If the girl even remotely likes you, she’s not going to make it hard for you. She understands that it takes balls to do this during the daytime, and most guys are unable to do it.

I hope these small tips are helpful. They’re just a comparison of where I came from a number of years ago doing this stuff and how it seemed scary to begin with, that’s completely normal.

Most guys have never done this before, so they don’t know what to expect.

The Truth About Cold Approach Pick-up

You could have had her. You really could have.

But you didn’t. And now she’s gone.

You’re not alone in this experience: it happens to everyone at some point or another, and it can be unbelieveably frustrating to watch a cute girl walk away because you were too scared to even talk to her.

But there’s more than one way to handle this situation, and we’re going to talk about three of them today.

If you’ve ever searched “how to pick up women” on google, you know the feeling.

You’re in the middle of a crowded bar or party and there’s some super hot girl across the room that you just can’t stop staring at. You think to yourself, “I bet she’s into me.”

But how do you get her to notice you? Should you go talk to her? Or maybe wait for her to come over? Maybe try to make eye contact first? What if she already has someone?

You might have heard that there are secret tactics and techniques that can help you attract women, but where do you start?

If you’re a day gamer, you probably think that PUAs are all about the hotties. But the reality is that they’re probably sleeping with only 1 out of every 10 beautiful women. And maybe even less than that.

The reason? Most pickup artists leave out the less-than-sexy details of cold approach pick-up in their videos. When you see a video of infield footage online, you’re seeing his best approach, the many rejections are cut out.

The Truth About Daygame

Day gaming is all about going after 9s and 10s. You’ll encounter many disappointments, but it’s worth it.

If single men in Sydney want to attract these women, you have to be prepared for rejection. You’ll get rejected a lot, but don’t let that stop you. It’s worth it in the end.

The benefits of dating these women far outweigh the costs. You’ll be able to attract any woman you want with ease, and have a lot more fun doing it than the guys who are stuck in their comfort zone or just not willing to put focus hard and push out the time and effort required.

Well, the good thing is that there are some cold approach pickup secrets that most guys never figure out. By knowing what to expect when dating, you can rest assured that your dating life will go the way you want it to.

Most Men Who Try to Learn Cold Approach Pick-up Fail

You know that just because you have a gym membership doesn’t mean that your body will change. You’ve seen the stats: 85% of people fail to get in better shape because they don’t have a mentor.

And it’s not just the fitness industry, almost 90% of all small businesses fail within the first year or two because they don’t have good mentors and business coaches. What makes men think that they are going to succeed without proper mentors then?

Similarly, many guys learn about cold approach pick up, but only a small percentage of them have the necessary skills to get laid using those techniques. In fact, success stories are not the norm: most people who try to succeed fail many times before they are successful.
Just like reading a book on fitness won’t guarantee that you’ll get ripped, and reading a pickup book will not turn you into Don Juan.
Why does learning to pick up women often seem so hard for men? There are two primary reasons:

Lack Of Truly Advanced Mentors or Coaches To Help Them

They Don’t have advanced guys around, nor do they take Enough Action. If you are a single guy and want to get good at cold approach pickup, you need to take action.

You need to go out and approach women. You need to talk to them, flirt with them and connect with them. If you spend all day reading about it and talking about it but never actually do it, then you will fail.

We all know the only way to get good at anything is by doing it over and over again. You don’t get good at playing rugby by learning the theory behind tackling and then practicing in your mind, you learn by playing games in real life over and over again until they become ingrained in your muscle memory.

The same goes for cold approach pickup.

Everyone knows that you get better at playing sports by actually playing… No one reads a book on rugby union then jumps into a game and becomes MVP immediately. So, don’t think being a theory junky will help you with cold approach pick-up, it wont.

Most Girls Will Reject You (No Amount Of Game Will Change That)

There are copious amounts of reasons why women don’t sleep with you. The main one is that they’re not interested in sleeping with you, but there are a bunch of other reasons as well.

If you approach ten women and five of them have boyfriends, then your chances are pretty low, about 52.5%.

If you cold approach ten women and nine of them don’t find you attractive, then your chances are even lower, about 93%. And if you approach ten women who are in a bad mood? Well, then the odds are basically zero percent.

But here’s the biggest thing: even if you do everything perfectly, approach ten women and get a yes from every single one, the majority of women you approach won’t sleep with you.

On a really good night, I can pull about one out of every ten attractive women I approach. 

Most of the girls you cold approach are going to reject you unless I do something special.

Results Come Through Rejection

It’s easy to get discouraged from all of the rejection when you go out and cold approach a lot of women, but it’s also important not to get hung up on it.

If you have a great personality and look good, you’re going to stand out from the crowd. The truth is that most women you approach won’t sleep with you, no matter what you do.

We’ve all been there: the girl of our dreams is out of our league, and so we settle for someone less attractive. But why? Why should we have to settle for less when there are plenty of good-looking women out there who would love to go home with us?

You can’t tell me that Bradley Cooper or Leonardo DiCaprio has slept with 95% of the women he’s approached. No man does, not even those guys who look like gods.

While being rejected by 95% of women one approach may sound bad, it also means that with every 20 approaches a man makes in an evening, he is likely to be taking someone attractive home.

If you’re afraid of rejection, you probably won’t improve your skills when attempting to seduce women. To succeed at pickup, you need to be willing to expose yourself to rejection, so often, in fact, that you no longer let it affect you.

Most women will reject you. Don’t focus on the rejections, instead remember that incredible experience with beautiful and captivating women.

Don’t Dwell On The Rejection – You Are Doing Something Wrong, Fix It

When you’re trying to get a girl’s attention, it can be hard to break through the noise. You might feel your heart pound, your palms sweat, and your stomach do somersaults as you approach her.

It’s totally normal for many reasons to feel nervous when talking to girls, that’s just a fact of life. But now that you know this, you have the power to change how you react when those feelings come up.

You can choose not to let those emotions take over. When I see a beautiful woman walking down the street, my emotions are screaming at me not to approach her. Although I’m attracted to this girl and want to get closer to her, there is still an inner voice that tells me she will reject or humiliate me if try talking with him.

However, because I know how important it is for me to overcome these feelings if I want to attract women in everyday life, I force myself through them anyway.

The more I act against my emotions, the easier it becomes, an approach that’s at first difficult becomes easy. After several approaches to women, approaching them becomes effortless.

Let’s face it: emotions are fickle. They can be unpredictable, and they’re often hard to control. But that doesn’t mean you have to let them keep you from what matters in life.

That’s why I force myself through these difficult scenarios: the more you act against your emotions, the more you’ll learn how to control them.

Exposure To Rejection Training Helps

By using this method, you can get to the point where rejection is just a part of your day. You get so used to it, that there is zero emotional connection to rejection.

If you stop trying to control your emotions and instead focus on what you can control, you’ll see a marked improvement in your nightgame/daygame.

It’s up to you whether you want your feelings to shape the way things turn out, or if it is more important that you take control of situations and influence them.

You can apply this advice to approaching any woman.
● Find an advanced mentor to help you
● Split test different strategies
● Exposure training
● Going out when you have no plans and you’re tired from work that day

Put in the hard work necessary and you can build habits that you enjoy, you can reap the rewards of those habits for many years to come.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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