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The more a girl likes you, the more influence you will have over her. It shouldn’t be a surprise to anyone who wants have a relationship with a girl in the fastest possible way, attaining influence will substantially accelerate the process.

Studies have shown that 80% of all men tend to fall out of the pareto distribution in dating women, which suggests that these men are ineffective at getting girls to like them.

Being similar to another person can create trust amongst strangers rapidly, this newly created trust can evolve into the girl liking you quite fast. If a girl likes you, that influence can be used for compliance and so on and so on.

So, today lets talk about how to create similarity with a girl you just met.

We Like People Who Are Similar To Us

Have you ever travelled abroad and felt that you were different to every other person in that area?

Perhaps it was a superficial as being from another country, though it could be your language, race, religion, culture, etc Then you by chance, meet someone who has a ”similar” background to you, instantly you feel a kinship with that person, which translates to trust.

When surrounded by people who are similar, the differences become smaller, somewhat more difficult to identify. If everyone around you has the same background, language, socio economic status, etc, we start to splinter along opinion lines, even political lines.

Finding what those opinions are, then mirroring them can help portray similarities.

It’s frowned upon to go into ”interview mode” which is simply asking question after question, in order to learn about her. Though, you’ll have to gather information in a calibrated way, regardless.

This is a skill in itself, being as smooth as possible, while gathering information in an undetected way, so you can find similar ground.

I’m not recommending this extreme example, though a more recent phenomenon has been happening among ”male feminists” in universities, who will do almost anything to create a ”similarity” with girls.

These guys are literally willing to sell their souls in order to fit in with girls they want to sleep with. Again, this is not something I recommend, just an observation of an extreme case.

Women Use Social Proof To Guide Their Decisions

Social proof is when women observe a group of men, they naturally look for the leader or ”alpha male” of the group. This is built into women biologically, no matter how irrational it may be in the context of modern society.

One time abroad in a foreign country, I met a group of local guys who were quite cool. The topic of girls came up, maybe I brought it up, can’t remember. As a dating coach, girls are always at the top of my mind.

These local guys and myself bonded over our love of girls, sure this is a generalised topic, though you can see the power of finding common ground.

While we bonded over the topic of picking up girls, one of the local guys spotted a blonde American girl across the road. He ran over to her and coaxed her to follow him back across the road join us.

This guy gave me an inflated social proof, by acting on my behalf the girl may have assumed that I was of higher status. Instantly the American girl trusted me, because we were from a similar racial (white) and cultural background too.

Mix ”similar” with ”social proof” and she was unable to resist, in fact she invited herself over to my hotel for a drink within 15 minutes hanging out with us.

Influence

If you have got this far, by finding similarities, showing social proof, getting her to like you, then you should have some influence. Many men get this far and stumble at the finish line. Often from my experience, a girls interest has a time limit, once you have got her attention, use it or lose it. You’ve got the power, now it’s time to use it to your advantage before she loses interest.

Compliance Building

Once you have influence, it’s time to build compliance. This is simply asking her for things she’ll only agree to, from a guy she likes. One of the most common strategies is, bouncing from location to location, building compliance and trust from location to location.

An extreme case of utilising compliance, from my own experience, was at a house party that I attended. I entered this party with a group of guys, maybe 5 to 10 guys.

These guys were the cool guys in the social group and I was coming along for the ride. As we entered the party, I locked eyes with one of the most beautiful girls at the party and could tell that my clothing matched hers ”similarity”, I entered with the coolest guys she knew ”social proof” and with these two combined, I had ”influence”.

Without even having a conversation with this girl, I knew that all the boxes were ticked, so I went for ”compliance” as my opening line. I said ”wanna come for a walk?” she said ”okay”.

We walked outside of the party and ended up having sex on the front lawn. This is probably the best example of getting a girl to like you fast, that I can think of.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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