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This is more of a therapeutic post for myself, hopefully no one actually reads this one. If you do end up reading this and you are currently dealing with a broken heart, I’ll give my advice on how to deal with it, without ruining the rest of your life.
My little bro died a few days ago from what seemed like a drug overdose, we are still waiting on the doctors autopsy results. It’s healthy to get things off your chest, so, maybe this can help both of us.
My brother had a break up with his girlfriend towards the end of 2018, which triggered a slow decline in every aspect of his life. In my opinion, this break up was so traumatising that he felt the need to delve into drugs and alcohol as an escape from his emotions. He had a broken heart I believe.
Also, he did honours at university, received scholarships for his academic prowess. The world was at his feet.
My grandmother died a few weeks ago too, so it’s been a hectic few months.
Men Can Be Destroyed By a Broken Heart
At our family Xmas party Dec 2018, I brought along a girl who was 22 and quite hot, my brother was alone. After a few drinks he said that I was lucky with girls and all he has is the dog, while cuddling the dog.
This was a huge sign that he was suffering. My date was sitting next to me, so I couldn’t go into the importance of learning cold approach right then and there, but I did later on and stressed this to everyone in our family.
His mother would interject every time I brought up the topic of cold approach and say that he just needs to find a good girl. Which made zero sense to me, considering that she never had any actionable ways he could meet any girls.
She would openly say that my lifestyle was bad and at my age, I needed to settle down and get married. My father would actually agree with me, that my bro needs to get back out there and date other girls, he understood the importance of dealing with a broken heart by sleeping around a little. Mothers don’t understand that…
The vibe I got, was that she felt that I was a bad influence. Between this xmas and his death, all he did was increase the amount of drugs and alcohol he consumed, in order to mask his emotions. Since the break up, I don’t think he had a one night stand or even dated another girl during that period.
Just to clarify, my parents divorced when I was only a few years old. Then my father remarried and had two more sons with his new wife. So, technically, this is my step-mother and step-brother.
Self-Medicating With Drugs To Deal With Emotional Pain
He was difficult to track down most of the time, I actually took this photo as evidence that we found each other. Kinda making fun of how difficult he was to find these days.
We met up in a night club for a drink. Just before two of his friends arrived, I explained the importance of learning cold approach, and getting back out there. He agreed, but we never ended up doing anything about it.
His two friends turned up. They were lunatics. One looked like he had brain damage from consuming way too many drugs and the other told me a story about how he got lost in China on a mushroom/drug binge.
But it’s not my place to say, ”your friends are scumbags, let’s clean you up and chase girls instead”. Although I was definitely thinking it.
I’ve dealt with some heavy life lessons and outlay them in my book ”the disabled casanova”. So, I’m no stranger to emotional pain. One thing I know for sure, covering up your emotions with drugs and alcohol will never work. Eventually you will have to deal with these emotions, whether you want to or not.
Everything in life has a cost to it. Choosing the least destructive option, is by far the best way to go.
Becoming obsessive about fitness or work or cold approach are all far better options for dealing with a broken heart than drugs and alcohol.
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Mothers Give Bad Dating Advice
Dating is easy for women.
Gotta get this off my chest. Your mother never had the experience of being a man in the dating world. Dating is far more difficult for men and no woman could ever understand this, This includes those scam artist female dating coaches. Men need to build experience with women over a period of time, with as many girls as possible.
It’s the only way to have the skills to be able to deal with a woman. Most women think that a guy can just walk into his first relationship and do a good job immediately, without any experience, that’s just not true.
A girl who’s a virgin, can easily get into a relationship, but an inexperienced male virgin cannot run a relationship without sexual experience or relationship experience. Women just don’t understand this.
Long story short. Don’t take dating advice from your mother.
How Long Does it take to Recover from a Broken Heart?
From the research I’ve done, men usually suffer from a broken heart for longer periods of time than women. Some articles say that it’s a biological reaction to being rejected.
When men are rejected throughout history, it meant the end of their chances to reproduce. Simply because in the past, there wasn’t many women to go around, so, a man would only get one shot at passing on his gene’s. Things have changed and these days, men have far more options than most are aware of.
The above video was made in Feb 2019, at least 3 months after the break-up. At this point he was partying more than usual, drinking more than usual and we have now discovered that he started taking drugs too.
I deeply regret not being able to convince him to learn cold approach from me, I honestly think he would still be here if he used cold approach instead of turning to drugs and alcohol.
How do I Stop Thinking About My Ex-Girlfriend?
If you have got this far, you should know the answer to this question, from my point of view. Learning cold approach pick up is what I think is the best solution to a broken heart.
- Because it’s healthy, you will get lots of exercise
- No drugs or alcohol are required
- You will be social. Instead of staying at home feeling sad.
- You may even get laid with you girls, which will definitely help you get over your ex-girlfriend
- Doing cold approach keeps you busy, it will keep your mind occupied.
And the list goes on and on. . .
My little bro would still be here with me if he had better ways to deal with his emotional pain. I honestly believe this.
Here are some of my best posts:
- Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
- What is indirect daygame
- What I say to Girls (Logistics)
- How to Write a PickUp field report
- How to spot a fake dating coach
- How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
- Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid
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