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You should make pick up a lifestyle and that means every time you leave home, you should be utilising every moment to meet girls.

One of those daily routines most people have, is buying coffee from a cafe or local coffee shop. In this post, I’ll be breaking down in detail how I would go about meeting girls every time I enter a coffee shop.

The hardest part about meeting a girl in a coffee shop, is starting the conversation. Once the conversation has started, then the goal will be to find out if she’s single, build rapport.

Then finally end the conversation on a positive note and exchange contact information, so that you can meet her again. Today I’m going to teach you my basic method for doing this.

This is what I do every time I enter a coffee shop

Dave : One Man’s Life Mission

1. This takes confidence, onlookers will hear what you say to her.
2. Start a conversation with a girl
3. Build Rapport
4. Logistics
5. End on a positive note
6. Exchange contact information

Onlookers While Picking Up Girls in a Coffee Shop

There will be onlookers who can hear everything you say to the girl and to still go through with it takes confidence. The first time you try to start a conversation with a girl in a coffee shop, you will be nervous, so be prepared for the adrenalin to kick in.

Start with small steps over time : Spend the first week simply saying hello to girls in your local coffee shop on a daily basis. Over time this confidence will build up.

Start a Conversation With a Girl in a Coffee Shop

1. Every time you enter a coffee shop, you will enter and scan for girls who you’d like to meet. Take a mental note of how many girls there are and where they are located around the coffee shop.
2. Then you go to the back of the line. The best way to start up a conversation is by making an observation. A girl may be in front or behind you. I like to make a negative comment about how slow the line is or how busy ”my local cafe” is. This kinda displays high value (DHV) that I’m someone who expects high standards.
3. Does she respond with :
   1. Silence : This will happen most of the time, in my experience, If this happens, don’t say anything else, just assume she heard you but doesn’t want to engage. You can always try a proper cold approach outside, when she leaves the coffee shop.
   2. A one word answer : This is a 50/50 girl. At this point, don’t persist. The next step will be to look for another observation and try again in the next few minutes. Fingers crossed you can get her to open up a little more.
   3. Smiles and engages with you fully : This is the best case scenario, remember that onlookers are listening to your conversation, so keep it professional, you need to keep plausible deniability. Don’t tell her how pretty she is or compliment her clothing or anything creepy like that, we need to keep our covert game in tact.

Don’t push it! She might be a regular at this coffee shop. Keep in mind that you can always re-engage her at the same coffee shop tomorrow.

Dave : One Man’s Life Mission

Build Rapport With Her

You can’t build rapport without gathering information in the beginning. Remember, you don’t know her at all. Ask a few open questions about her like : What’s she up to today. Then did a little deeper by asking a few more questions related to whatever she replies with.

Remember, there are onlookers around, she doesn’t want you to say anything weird or creepy. So simply keep it boring and professional at this point.

Use whatever information you’ve gathered about her to share something related about yourself.

Logistics Are Everything!!!

1. Where does she live
2. Where does she work
   • Learn what industry she’s working in (helps when texting)
3. What is she doing right now

This logistical information will work wonders for your success rates with women. This is my own innovation after cold approaching thousands of women for decades. This is one of the hacks I share publicly, the rest are only taught to my live coaching students here.

End The Conversation Positively

When you feel the conversation start to plateau, this is when you should start to wrap it up. The ending of the conversation will be the last and most memorable part she’ll remember. So try to end on a high energy and positive note.

Just like driving down a road, the beginning will determine where you end up. So, it’s so important that you listen carefully and ask good questions in the early stages of this type of interaction.

Some information that you gathered in the early stages of the interaction can be brought up again later, to keep the vibe and energy high, just like juggling.

Exchange Contact Information

• If you gathered logistics effectively, you’ll know if she visits this coffee shop everyday. So, you can make an executive decision whether to push for her mobile number now or leave the interaction on a high note. Keep in mind, pushing for contact information during a bad interaction will only fill your phone with flaky or even fake numbers. Not to mention, burn out your local coffee shop and give yourself a bad reputation. Use social awareness
• IMPORTANT : It’s better to have a nice conversation with a girl and say good bye, instead of pushing hard on every approach. Have a growth mindset and remember game is a lifestyle, not a hobby, which means that you are simply doing this everyday. Knowing that with consistency, you will eventually get dates and a girlfriend from this simple strategy.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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Here is my 30 day challenge, this will definitely change your life, if you are new to cold approach pick up. Otherwise, I offer live coaching infield and in person.