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You need to be different from every other guy she knows, you have to stand out in some way. The problem is, the specific way that will make her fall in love with you is individual to each girl. This requires you to learn about her by getting her to open up to you, which will also help to build an emotional connection between you and her.

Bringing loads of positive energy, while spiking her emotions will increase your chances with most women.

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• Be better in bed
• Don’t reveal your weaknesses
• Be spontaneous
• Find activities to do together
• Keep the relationship warm
• Listen to her
• Be positive
• Her family needs to like you
• Don’t take her moods personally
• Don’t smother her
• Being possessive can turn her on
• Add a touch of chivalry

You Need To Experiment In The Bedroom

Whether she will admit it or not, good sex is important to women. She will leave a guy, purely because he doesn’t turn her on in the bedroom.

Sure, size does matter, if you have the largest penis she has ever had, well, she is more likely to stay with you. Also, dating a virgin helps with this problem too, so try to avoid girls who have a large body count as they will always be looking for better in the bedroom and that is never your fault.

Try new sex positions every now and then, to keep it interesting for yourself. She will appreciate it.

Keep All Your Weaknesses Secret

Don’t believe the hype around showing your feelings, it’s a trap. Most men who get into long term relationships in the west are winning at work, have their life in order and everything is under control, so they don’t really come under any real stress and therefore are never really tested during the early stages of their relationships.

This could be why so many relationships break down after a decade or so and the divorce rate is so high in western countries.

I’ve on the other hand, had to deal with some extreme difficulties over the past decade. And whenever I showed that I was stressed or found myself in bad situations that I couldn’t solve easily, the girls I were dating during those periods would leave me without a second thought.

This taught me a serious lesson about women and life, always show strength, never show weakness.

Be Spontaneous And Adventurous

Women love to be surprised, even with small things, just the act of being spontaneous adds that little extra spice to your relationship.

Keep in mind, you don’t need to surprise her with a helicopter ride to a secluded island, it can be something very small and inexpensive. Just don’t be boring and do the same thing everyday, this is what women hate the most and it’s a huge turn off for them.

Find Things To Do Together

Even if she doesn’t have any cool hobbies, there will be a million activities she’ll enjoy after you expose her to them. So, get out there and take her out and try some new things you can do together, some things she’ll hate. But with trial and error you’ll find something you guys can do together on a regular basis.

Constant Contact Builds Her Routine Around You

Never let the relationship go cold, this is a huge mistake. Many men think that they need to play it cool, or they will look too needy around women, this is just false. If you are not texting her every 2 days or less, she will think that you are not interested and she will be default start to distance herself from you.

Only girls who are of lower mate value than yourself will tolerate it when you are ”playing it cool”, high value girls will only see that as a warning sign and you’ll lose them. Putting yourself and your emotions on the line is the only way to deal with this problem, remember to call or text almost daily.

Be a Good Listener

I was listening to a clients audio recordings this week and he rarely listened to the girls he was approaching. For instance, he approached a girl who was reading a book, his opener was ”what are you reading”, she replied ”a book about the great American migrations”.

My client asked where is she from, then started talking about himself for a few minutes… This was a lesson in NOT listening and showing interest in the girl.

Instead, he should have asked about the book, hell, when I was listening to her talk, I really wanted to find out more about the book myself. If she is interested in something, perhaps it’s important for her and something she would like to talk about, maybe she’ll feel like you actually care about her too. Showing interest in things that she is passionate about, is a great way to build an emotional connection.

Be Positive

Women are scared easily, so the last thing they need, is for a guy to be talking about negative things around her. It will only make her feel unsafe and she will associate that feeling with you. Being positive will relax her and let her know that you are someone reliable to be around. People feel what you feel.

Her Family MUST Like You

It’s so important that you make an effort to connect with her family and friends. Women are social creatures who are influenced by people within their ”tribe” or social circle. If anyone within a girls social circle dislikes you, then you may find it difficult to keep her long term.

Never Take Her Mood Swings Personally

This is hard to do when you care what she thinks, but it’s something that will help you smooth out the bumps in any relationship. Knowing that women have mood swings and they are inherently emotional creatures and using that knowledge to allow yourself to ignore her mood swings, will keep you out of so much drama.

Give Her Space – Don’t Smother Her

I have no solid advice on this one because it’s such a complex situation, if you find yourself in it. This is something that most guys know, but it’s hard to find that line and it’s even more difficult to know when you have crossed it.

Be Possessive In A Playful Way

Most girls in my opinion want to have their boyfriend showing some type of ownership over her. Sure, some may not appreciate this, but the types of girls I date, mostly they will appreciate it.

You can start by telling her that she is yours in a playful way, just to see if she likes it.

Another thing you can try is : pretend that you are jealous of some inanimate object. Say, she has a teddy bear that she sleeps with, as an example.

You can role play, by telling her that this teddy bear is cockblocking you and trying to steal your girl. You can experiment with a whole range of other inanimate objects and even pets. You can pretend to be jealous of her pets, or her younger brother or anything for that matter.

Chivalry Is Okay

A touch of old school chivalry still turns heads these days and I would argue has more impact than ever before, simply because it’s so rare.

Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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