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Choosing signals are when a girl makes repeated attempts to make strong eye contact with a guy she is physically attracted to. When she catches his eye, she will hold strong eye contact long enough to show her interest in him. This is intended to trigger him into approaching her.

Choosing Signals Have Got Me So Laid Many Times

The majority of times I have got laid from cold approach have not been via choosing signals, though, when I’ve received a solid look from a girl, I’ve managed to capitalise on it quite often. In the video below I talk about 3 times choosing signals have got me laid and here’s one more for measure, just to prove I know what I’m talking about.

Not too long ago, I entered a country nightclub, it was quite empty compared to a club in the city, probably half full. This made it a little difficult to approach ever girl inside, as most of them knew each other, but I went hard anyway.

After exhausting most options in and around the dance floor, a girl came through the entrance and gave me a solid choosing signal, I suspect it was because I was wearing a white collared shirt that bloomed under the fluorescent lights.

She headed straight for her friends who were already on the dancefloor waiting for her to arrive. Before she reached them, I cut her off, assuming that she wanted me to approach her and that she was already attracted to me.

My opener was literally ”hey, wanna dance” she replied with ”sure”. I grabbed her hand, lead her to the middle of the dancefloor and started kissing her. This is a great example of how identifying the right choosing signal from a girl can lead to instant attraction.

We were locked in from that moment onwards, she held my hand tightly while introducing me to her friends (who saw us kissing right in front of them).

The next step was to build compliance, so I moved her to a seat on the edge of the dancefloor. Moving a girl around builds compliance and makes it easier for her to leave the nightclub alone with you. Suggesting food or a walk or anything you can think of doing together with her alone outside is advised at this point.

Soon afterwards, we went outside to my car to mess around some more. Luckily her parents were away, so we stayed at her place that night.

She screamed so loud that night, it felt as if she was doing it to defy her parents or something, perhaps it made sex more exciting at home while her parents were away. Whatever the reason, I almost needed earplugs to prevent going deaf.

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Choosing Signals – Strong Eye Contact

The idea is choosing signals usually occur in a social setting like a bar or nightclub, because of her limitations in being able to connect with people. So, instead she will make strong eye contact with a guy she is attracted to from across the room, hoping to make him approach her.

Strong eye contact is the key.

The problem with misreading this as a sign she’s attracted to the guy is :

• She might not be attracted to him
• She may not have even be looking at him in the first place

Choosing Signals – The Approach

Let’s play out the scenario where you’re in a club or bar and a girl from across the room locks eyes with you.

1. You may not be 100% certain that she was a choosing signal, so you can wait to see if it happens another time. This will give you time to prepare yourself for the approach. If she makes eye contact with you again, then you should make the approach.
2. Imagine that the conversation had just begun from across the room via her choosing signal and you walking over to start talking is just an acknowledgment of that.
3. When approaching a girl who has given you choosing signals, please don’t start the conversation with ”I saw you checking me out from over there”, I’ve tried this before and it makes the girl feel uncomfortable.
4. The best mindset is to assume that she is already attracted to you and that she started the conversation. You are just accepting her advances on you, by making the approach, imagine that you are the prize because if she’s giving you choosing signals, then you are definitely the prize.

Choosing Signals are NOT an Excuse to do NOTHING!

The types of guys who push choosing signals have approach anxiety from my experience. Waiting for a girl to lustfully lock eyes with you from across the room doesn’t happen that often, therefore guys who wait for Choosing Signals will find themselves waiting a long time in-between approaches.

Cold approach is called ”cold” for a good reason, most of the approaches you will do, will be cold, just accept the reality of the situation.

Choosing Signals Mostly Come From Less Attractive Girls

I’m sure you have heard of hypergamy, it basically means that women always like to find men who are more attractive and successful than themselves, its just how women are wired. Therefore, a woman is not going to be checking out a man who is of perceived lower value than herself.

The point I’m trying to make here is that, if you want to get hotter girls, then you will have to use pure cold approach as girls hotter than you will not (in the majority of cases) send you some choosing signals unless you are way more attractive than them.

Choosing Signals – Conclusion

Using choosing signals as just one tool in your cold approach pickup strategy will definitely help you get laid more often, but waiting for choosing signals is a terrible idea. The majority of your approaches will cold and that’s the hard truth, especially if you want to get girls who are more attractive than yourself.

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Here are some of my best posts:

• Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
• What is indirect daygame
• What I say to Girls (Logistics)
• How to Write a PickUp field report
• How to spot a fake dating coach
• How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
• Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid

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