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Your girlfriend may judge you as low value and consider leaving you for someone else. If you feel like this is happening to you, perhaps this strategy could be of value to you. Your Girlfriend will listen to others opinions on you. One person she may listen to is her mother.

Mothers have lower standards for the attractiveness of their future son-in-law. So, if you can become good friends with the mother of the girl you want to date or are currently dating, she will become your biggest advocate behind the scenes.

I Learned The Hard Way

From my own experience from dating hundreds of girls, it’s so important to become friends with her mother. I learned this mistake early on, when I was 17 yrs old, I was in love, but I was young and naive.

Whenever I went to my girlfriends house, I’d hide in her bedroom to avoid her parents, this was very unsociable of myself, this annoyed my girlfriends parents. They always asked my girlfriend why did I hide in her room, then they made the logical conclusion that I hated them (which wasn’t true), then they ultimately felt isolated from their daughter (which was not my intention).

The reason I behaved like this was the abuse I suffered at home, not that I disliked them at all, read my book ”the disabled casanova” for more on this.

Eventually her mother started trying to separate us, she continuously talked badly about me to my girlfriend. Back then I didn’t think that the pressure her mother was putting on her daughter could separate us, how naive I was.

She would make sly comments to me, in front of her daughter, I still didn’t think she had any power, but after a while our relationship started to unravel. Let’s make it clear, her mother was only a small contributing factor, but her input mattered.

Girlfriends Mother Can Be Your Biggest Advocate

After this happened, I changed my strategy to doing everything I could to become best friends with the mothers of every girl I dated from that point on.

And every time I did this, the mother became my biggest advocate. The amount of effort that is needed to win over a girls mother for the (ROI) return is huge, never underestimate the power a mother has. If you want to lock in your girlfriend to a more serious relationship, getting her mother on board is a powerful weapon.

One reason why arranged marriages work so well in places like the sub-continent, is the parents get together as support when their child’s relationship is struggling.

This is mostly because the parents have partial responsibility over the relationship. The same as in western countries, when your girlfriend’s mother starts advocating on your behalf, she will also become support for the tough times.

Your Girlfriends Parents Biggest Fear

Your girlfriend has been their little girl for her entire life, she’s always been close by, she is important to them. As long as they still have a good relationship, they would want to continue seeing their daughter on a regular basis, for the rest of their lives.

Especially as they get older, the more free time they have, the more time they would like to spend with their daughter. Most parents would love to see some grandchildren too and they would like to babysit their grandchildren sometimes.

So, I’d argue that their biggest fear would be a guy who swoops in and selfishly takes up all of their daughters time.

Deep down, they would be looking for a guy who likes spending time with the family, a guy who would include them in their daughters life. One nightmare her mother would have, is if you move too far away with their daughter.

One way to get her mother on side, would be to signal that you like spending time with her. Make her feel secure that you are not the type of guy who’s going to isolate their daughter from the family.

If you can project the opposite, that you want to include her mother in your life as much as possible, then you will put yourself in a great position to get her support for your relationship.

Best Ways To Get Your Girlfriends Mother To Like You

• Be willing to help her with any domestic chores
• Offer to help her cook dinner
• Help her to set the table
• Offer to wash the dishes after dinner

You’ll notice a common thread here, the way to impress your girlfriends mother is all around domestic chores. This obviously depends on the socio economic status of her parents, maybe they have domestic helpers, but this is rare. Even high income families have to do the basic of domestic chores.

I’d argue that most mothers don’t like the amount of daily chores they have to do, and if you were to help her out, she would appreciate it.

I’d also argue that the return on helping a mother around the house would be greater than spending the same amount of time helping out her father. He’s less likely to appreciate your effort to the same extent as her mother.

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