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The ultimate list on how to get a girlfriend fast, this is a proven step by step guide to getting a girlfriend FAST! No matter where you are in your dating journey, go through this list and you will accelerate closer towards your girlfriend goals faster than any other advice.
To start with I’d like to pitch the best solution to yourself getting a girlfriend and that is an Immersion with myself to learn the sweet art of cold approach.
- You need to take action NOW!
- Build up your confidence
- Assess your fashion and grooming
- Where’s your fitness level at?
- Get out and be social
- Figure out a strategy to bring more girls into your life
- Go for her – timid men remain alone
- Be a good listener
- Avoid these conversation topics
- Accept that you cannot do this perfectly – Relax
- Fearlessly tease her in a light-hearted way
- Show her that you care, be reliable
- Avoid the friendzone by putting it on the line
- Keep her guessing about you (Mystery)
- Stand out from the crowd
- Show some humour
- Don’t smother her in the early stages
- Learn from your past mistakes
- Text her the right amount of times
- Last resort – Change locations
You need to take action NOW!
If you are reading this now, there is a good chance that you have spent way too much time alone and you are getting desperate. It’s time to get off the couch and start taking action right NOW!!!
Hit me up here and I’ll give you a motivational talking to right now. But, seriously, what are you doing with your life, lets get this happening right now!
Build up your confidence
Confidence is not built up overnight, it takes time. The best way to build up your confidence is through tiny wins, then building on these tiny wins one by one.
There is a book that describes this the best way I know how and it’s called ”the winner effect”, check it out. After a while you can begin to see a spiralling upwards effect happening in your life.
Assess your fashion and grooming
Get up right now and look in the mirror, I’m serious, get up and have a look. What do you see? are you perfectly groomed and is your fashion on point? If not, it’s time to start having a close look at how to improve these aspects of your image.
Don’t go outside looking homeless, people will judge you as lazy and this will reflect badly on your personality. Take some pride in yourself.
Where’s your fitness level at?
Are you the next modern version of Arnold Schwarzenegger or are you the next Jack Black? Have a look in the mirror and be honest with yourself, trust me, there are very few people out there that have an excuse for being overweight, and I doubt you are one of them.
You need to exercise everyday and get this aspect of your life sorted asap.
Get out and be Social
No change is going to happen by staying at home being a theory junky, it doesn’t matter how much knowledge you have, without actually getting out and talking to girls, nothing will change.
The good news is, the bar is really low for being social, you can be shy, quirky, even a little weird, but don’t worry because people are far more forgiving than you might think.
If you focus on being positive and non-threatening to everyone you meet, they will allow you to hang around a little longer and this will give you the experience you need.
Get out there and practice your social muscles!
Figure out a strategy to bring more girls into your life
- Online dating
- Daygame
- Nightgame
- Social Circle
These are a few of the most known strategies men use. In the beginning I suggest you choose anything but online game because this will not improve your socializing abilities.
Go for Her – Timid Men Remain Alone
Have you ever found yourself in a conversation with a girl who you found attractive, yet it seemed to go no where.
You had one of those ”conversations to no-where” with the hope that in the future you’ll have another chance to impress her with your personality, then miraculously, she will fall in love with you and all your dreams will come true.
Yeah.. Nah
You should be pushing forward most interactions with women you meet the first time you meet them, or just assume that it’s not going to happen.
Remember, you are here to win, not to hover around waiting for a beautiful girl to ride in on a stallion to save you from your life of loneliness. That’s how women think…
Be a Good Listener
When she speaks, listen. This might seem like obvious advice, but there’s more to it than you may think. She will sprinkle in little golden nuggets of information about herself that are so valuable when trying to build an emotional connection with her.
If you listen closely, she may well give you the keys to her castle on a silver platter if you are capable of seeing it.
Avoid these Conversation Topics
The basic way of looking at this is : ”Women are emotional and men are logical” well most of the time. I’ve met emotional men and logical women, but mostly the former is true.
So, what types of topics should you avoid talking about?
- Politics
- Education
- Work
Well, politics is a huge no no. This is so polarising that you guys may end up arguing over politics on a date, when this could be avoided by simply not discussing it in the first place.
Work, how many of you guys go out to have fun and can’t wait to discuss work with your friends? I’d bet not many, unless you are some type of workaholic. Boring topics like what you are studying or how to get better grades, are all off the table, sorry boys.
Accept that you cannot do this perfectly – Relax
Social interactions are complex and most people get them wrong. Most people give off bad impressions, most people say and do stupid things. Keep this in mind when you are stressing about creating the perfect facade in a social setting. Take the pressure off, do your best, chill.
Fearlessly Tease her in a Light-Hearted way
Whenever we tease a girl, there is a risk that she will get insulted and hate us immediately. But this is also, high risk high reward. Which is weird because I’d say that being neutral is far more risky because you are not playing to win, only hoping to not lose. Teasing a girl is so important, it shows social awareness, plus projects that you are on her level, and in some cases will show that you are above her.
Show her that you care, be reliable
Sometimes a girl will tell you about her problems. This is a great opportunity to show her that you care by offering to help out in some small way, mostly she will not want to be a burden on you, but it will at least show that you are there for her.
Avoid the Friendzone by putting it on the line
There are times when you find yourself in some type of friendzone. Instead of putting it all on the line, you may find yourself afraid to lose her, so you hover around trying not to lose.
When you should be doing the total opposite, you should be pushing for a relationship with her and if she doesn’t want a relationship, you should just say ”goodbye”. It’s better to free up space in your life by removing her out of it, then you can fill up that empty spot with a girl who is actually interested in you.
Keep her guessing about you (Mystery)
Keep the mystery and avoid telling her the bad things about your past.
Stand out from the crowd
Keep some mystery about yourself. She doesn’t need to know everything about you, especially your weaknesses. If you tell her all your inner most secrets, she will lose respect for you most probably.
Don’t go on massive storytelling rants about your life, she really doesn’t need to know hardly anything about you. Sure she will tell you that she wants to know everything, but if you tell her everything, she may leave you.
No I’m not going to suggest you ”peacock” by wearing weird clothing that helps you to stand out from the crowd. We are all different in our own ways, we have our own quirky little personalities etc. Try to be more polarising when you speak, say things designed to polarise, do it fearlessly.
Show Some Humour
- Challenge her
- Tease her
Look, you don’t have to be a comedian but if you can show some humour, you will most probably doing better than most men she’s dated. A few simple hacks are just being quite challenging, you can question things she says, as if you just don’t believe anything she says to you.
This would be annoying to your guy friends but for girls it usually makes them laugh.
Then you can go a little further by throwing in some teasing, this is where you actively criticise things about her in a playful way. These two simple strategies are a good start for any guy who’s new to this.
Don’t Smother Her in the Early Stages
Pretty self explanatory, just don’t go telling her that you love her within a few dates (unless you are joking). Or go crazy and ask her to marry you in the early stages of a relationship, or she will be scared off.
Learn from your past mistakes with Girls
Sometimes it can be difficult to know exactly what you did wrong when you lose girls, they don’t exactly tell you why they decided not to come back.
But you should have some idea what went wrong and try to avoid making the same mistake next time. If you have no idea what you did wrong, perhaps you can run through it with a friend or even hit me up for a chat, I’ll have a chat with you about it and try figure out what you did wrong.
Text her the right amount of times
This can be difficult to know, but my basic rule is 3 days is too long between interactions and daily is a little too overwhelming for most girls. The happy medium is texting or calling every 2 days as far as I’m concerned.
Last resort – Change locations
If you’ve tried everything, even a bootcamp or Immersion and you have honestly tried to the best of your ability to improve your dating life. Perhaps it’s the location you live in, maybe, just maybe you live in a bad location and it’s time to move.
Moving to a bigger city, moving to another country, moving to a location where the demographics are better for you. This is a last resort, extreme thing to do, but it all depends on how serious you are about improving your dating life.
Can I get a girlfriend if I have no friends?
Depends on why you have no friends, are you an incredibly difficult person to be friends with or are you just a little shy. If you think it’s a big thing thats holding you back, then perhaps you should focus on making more friends simultaneously.
Do girls like shy guys?
Mostly women prefer load and confident guys, but this doesn’t mean that you can’t get a girlfriend when you are shy. Just keep in mind that girls won’t approach you and throw them at your feet, you’ll have to do the approaching (even if you are shy).
One good way to overcome your shyness, is to get some coaching with me by doing an immersion.
Why don’t you have a Girlfriend?
Here are some of my best posts:
- Cold approach is a lifestyle (My Philosphy)
- What is indirect daygame
- What I say to Girls (Logistics)
- How to Write a PickUp field report
- How to spot a fake dating coach
- How I got laid in Japan (epic post)
- Why Thailand is NO longer good for getting laid
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